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In reply to the discussion: Had a shitty New Year's Eve. Called my family and was put down by my mother who stated I was NOT to [View all]perdita9
(1,163 posts)33. You have my sympathy
My mother was also like this. Demanding one thing then throwing a fit when I complied; insisting she just wanted everyone "to get along" and then setting all the kids against each other.
Sorry you are going through this. Eventually I pulled away from anything family related. Not a great solution but, at some point, I had to protect my own emotional health.
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Had a shitty New Year's Eve. Called my family and was put down by my mother who stated I was NOT to [View all]
debm55
Jan 2023
OP
Thank you. nightwing. I have been trying. It is so very hard for me as I expected parents to love
debm55
Jan 2023
#5
One time as my brother was sitting on my chest, betting the shit out of me, he told my mother to
debm55
Jan 2023
#50
Your mother has some serious emotional issues. I am sorry you continue to try. I would turn the page
Evolve Dammit
Jan 2023
#47
She has gone beyond the goal of punching my baby teeth out. giving me black eyes, etc. It's more
debm55
Jan 2023
#51
You need to walk away and tell her you will not continue the abuse. Seek some help to assist you.
Evolve Dammit
Jan 2023
#57
Or just walk away and stay away. That works too. Enough damage and trauma. Best wishes
Evolve Dammit
Jan 2023
#58
RainCaster, she is Catholic. This Jesus birthday started a couple of years ago. I was not involved
debm55
Jan 2023
#6
My goodness. My entire family is Catholic and give gifts on Christmas and birthdays.
jimfields33
Jan 2023
#18
Well, when you spend 3,000 a month on computer games and gambling, I guess it can be a problem. One
debm55
Jan 2023
#22
Judesedit, I wish I could, but I can't for whatever reason, I'm afraid of her, but I want her to say
debm55
Jan 2023
#10
I'm sorry you're stuck on that merry-go-round. I truly meant no disrespect for you
judesedit
Jan 2023
#55
IMO, anyone who owns 30 cats has a much bigger problem than what you stated.
Eyeball_Kid
Jan 2023
#7
Eyeball, thank you. She also has my brother and sister and father their with her. My brother is
debm55
Jan 2023
#12
Not really, brother was violent to me--called me a pimple faced whore and broke my fingers. Beat me
debm55
Jan 2023
#13
But local, I really don't think that she does care. It was a lie about the cats and the cell phone.
debm55
Jan 2023
#14
She sounds like my mother. Look, her Mind is not balanced and there is nothing you can do about
Karadeniz
Jan 2023
#15
What you want to happen is never going to happen - a normal mother/daughter relationship.
patricia92243
Jan 2023
#19
She sounds like a schizophrenogenic mother - one that gives the child mixed
PatrickforB
Jan 2023
#30
My brother is schizophrenic, but doesn't take meds. She has told me that I will co own the house
debm55
Jan 2023
#56
Sounds like my mother. Sounds like she has a mental illness. Get as far away from
demigoddess
Jan 2023
#35
Congrats for leaving that toxic home at 18. It kept you from turning into a psycho like her.
SunSeeker
Jan 2023
#43
It is very, very, very, very hard to walk away from a familial relationship, but sometimes...
NNadir
Jan 2023
#44
My heart goes out to you because you have taken more than you should have to.
halfulglas
Jan 2023
#45