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perdita9

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33. You have my sympathy

Sun Jan 1, 2023, 04:37 PM

Jan 2023

My mother was also like this. Demanding one thing then throwing a fit when I complied; insisting she just wanted everyone "to get along" and then setting all the kids against each other.

Sorry you are going through this. Eventually I pulled away from anything family related. Not a great solution but, at some point, I had to protect my own emotional health.

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Had a shitty New Year's Eve. Called my family and was put down by my mother who stated I was NOT to [View all] debm55 Jan 2023 OP

The best advice I got from a doctor I have seen for years nightwing1240 Jan 2023 #1

Thank you. nightwing. I have been trying. It is so very hard for me as I expected parents to love debm55 Jan 2023 #5

I feel for you. True Blue American Jan 2023 #32

One time as my brother was sitting on my chest, betting the shit out of me, he told my mother to debm55 Jan 2023 #50

Your mother has some serious emotional issues. I am sorry you continue to try. I would turn the page Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #47

She has gone beyond the goal of punching my baby teeth out. giving me black eyes, etc. It's more debm55 Jan 2023 #51

You need to walk away and tell her you will not continue the abuse. Seek some help to assist you. Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #57

Or just walk away and stay away. That works too. Enough damage and trauma. Best wishes Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #58

Is this a religious thing for her? RainCaster Jan 2023 #2

RainCaster, she is Catholic. This Jesus birthday started a couple of years ago. I was not involved debm55 Jan 2023 #6

My goodness. My entire family is Catholic and give gifts on Christmas and birthdays. jimfields33 Jan 2023 #18

Well, when you spend 3,000 a month on computer games and gambling, I guess it can be a problem. One debm55 Jan 2023 #22

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. jimfields33 Jan 2023 #61

I had a friend Rebl2 Jan 2023 #36

Sorry you are going through this. Marcus IM Jan 2023 #3

Thank you, Marcus. debm55 Jan 2023 #8

Exactly Marcus DENVERPOPS Jan 2023 #41

Not too Jesus-like to call you every name in the book. judesedit Jan 2023 #4

Judesedit, I wish I could, but I can't for whatever reason, I'm afraid of her, but I want her to say debm55 Jan 2023 #10

I'm sorry you're stuck on that merry-go-round. I truly meant no disrespect for you judesedit Jan 2023 #55

Don't blame yourself MadameButterfly Jan 2023 #60

IMO, anyone who owns 30 cats has a much bigger problem than what you stated. Eyeball_Kid Jan 2023 #7

Eyeball, thank you. She also has my brother and sister and father their with her. My brother is debm55 Jan 2023 #12

You need to keep your distance True Blue American Jan 2023 #38

Agree Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #49

This orangecrush Jan 2023 #39

So sorry Debm55 Quakerfriend Jan 2023 #9

Not really, brother was violent to me--called me a pimple faced whore and broke my fingers. Beat me debm55 Jan 2023 #13

I did. I told her to rip up the check. She asked for her's back. debm55 Jan 2023 #23

I did not speak to my parents at all for 17 years b/c of shit like this localroger Jan 2023 #11

But local, I really don't think that she does care. It was a lie about the cats and the cell phone. debm55 Jan 2023 #14

Oh, I'm sure she cares. The question is, what is it she cares about? localroger Jan 2023 #16

Good for you! True Blue American Jan 2023 #40

She sounds like my mother. Look, her Mind is not balanced and there is nothing you can do about Karadeniz Jan 2023 #15

You really do deserve a life free of abuse Tesha Jan 2023 #17

What you want to happen is never going to happen - a normal mother/daughter relationship. patricia92243 Jan 2023 #19

I cut off my family for years for a lot less gopiscrap Jan 2023 #20

Here is a site to the best mental self help group I ever followed Maraya1969 Jan 2023 #21

Please, for your own health, sanity, and well-being, RUN. Do not walk. Do not niyad Jan 2023 #24

This. Wednesdays Jan 2023 #53

When i was 68 I stopped speaking to my mother because every time I did, fierywoman Jan 2023 #25

Go to a trauma therapist and have them help you obamanut2012 Jan 2023 #26

There is a good reddit about parents like that IbogaProject Jan 2023 #27

My brother has not spoken to my mother in at least 15 years BWdem4life Jan 2023 #28

Cult thinking.. Permanut Jan 2023 #29

She sounds like a schizophrenogenic mother - one that gives the child mixed PatrickforB Jan 2023 #30

My brother is schizophrenic, but doesn't take meds. She has told me that I will co own the house debm55 Jan 2023 #56

I'm so sorry. I'll just echo what others have said... Sky Jewels Jan 2023 #31

You have my sympathy perdita9 Jan 2023 #33

The advice given so far seems pretty right on to me. 1WorldHope Jan 2023 #34

Sounds like my mother. Sounds like she has a mental illness. Get as far away from demigoddess Jan 2023 #35

Dear Deb, I am sending you hugs. Only you can choose what to do, but MLAA Jan 2023 #37

I feel your pain debm55 infullview Jan 2023 #42

Congrats for leaving that toxic home at 18. It kept you from turning into a psycho like her. SunSeeker Jan 2023 #43

It is very, very, very, very hard to walk away from a familial relationship, but sometimes... NNadir Jan 2023 #44

My heart goes out to you because you have taken more than you should have to. halfulglas Jan 2023 #45

I had parents like that BonnieJW Jan 2023 #46

The holidays can be rough dlk Jan 2023 #48

Devise a new homegirl Jan 2023 #52

After reading all of this... RainCaster Jan 2023 #54

Lord vercetti2021 Jan 2023 #59

Thank you for all of your suggestions. I feel ashamed of spreading all of our dirty laundry. You are debm55 Jan 2023 #62