Mental Health Support

I offer this advice because I've been in your situation. I'm 18 years older and know that at 47 you
have enough time to rescue yourself into a life...YOUR life! Imagine that!

Your family thinks they're doing you a favor. Trust me on that one. Sounds as if both your mother and sister next door are financially secure and you've helped them do that! All 3 of you need to take care of yourselves. I think you are afraid to leave home. Why? You do everything there you would do if you lived alone. You have the skills. I also sense a fear of not having enough money but you do! However, putting your repair bills on a credit card cost you. Obviously you have a lot of discipline so take the $$ from your savings, avoid the interest on the cc and pay your savings back as you do on the cc. I had 27K when I did this....you'll be fine.

Take baby steps to your new life. Spend a couple hours of your 'me' time a week to explore services available to get your mother to and from doctor appointments or explore housekeeping services, yard services etc. your sister could employ. You will discover there are options for your relatives and that should alleviate the stress on you. Look into rentals for yourself. Most of all keep picturing yourself out from under your overly stressed life....you are killing yourself! You've admitted you get nothing in return. Just do a little at a time. Organize. I can't figure out what compels you to do what you do. I know I thought I was doing it out of love and a sense of obligation but that's just smoke. Your family behaves in a way that shows you no respect BECAUSE you don't respect yourself and your needs. DO IT! It's scary....but you will succeed because you have the skills.

Get your ducks in a row. That may take months but little by little start separating yourself. Your family may be flustered at first but they will survive. I said I saw a couple of options. The second one isn't as good for you but at least it might give your present life some value. GET PAID for what you do! Yes, you buy food and help with utilities but you are doing two jobs and need to be paid. If your family refuses you hopefully have done enough on option one to step away. Most importantly, LOVE yourself.

You need to be willing to spend a little of your savings....it can be replaced and you'll probably be surprised how easily once you're independent. Sorry my computer has decided to act up! This can be done...I've done it.