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Tobin S.

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11. Excellent post, snappyturtle.
Mon Aug 13, 2012, 04:17 AM
Aug 2012

I used to have an unhealthy relationship with some of my family. I've done something similar to what you have suggested. I haven't totally shut them out of my life, but I've created some much needed space. I needed respect and I deserved respect, but I wasn't going to get it from them, it seemed, until I did something about it.

I didn't have a showdown at sunset kind of thing. I just started doing the kind of things that I wanted to do. When I was questioned about it I explained it in that respect.

It's going to be hard at first, Denninmi, but I think you can do it.

On the upside... Bragi Aug 2012 #1
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I hear you. mia Aug 2012 #2
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Look....you DO have a way out. Actually, I see two ways to alleviate your situation. snappyturtle Aug 2012 #5
First, you ARE responsible, elleng Aug 2012 #6
Hey, man Tobin S. Aug 2012 #7
Thank you, Tobin. Denninmi Aug 2012 #8
I think you're being hard on yourself. You began this journey because of your high sense snappyturtle Aug 2012 #9
Excellent post, snappyturtle. Tobin S. Aug 2012 #11
you are carrying an incredible load fizzgig Aug 2012 #10
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sounds like you're off to a good start fizzgig Aug 2012 #16
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Denninmi Tobin S. Aug 2012 #14
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And clearly I'm not in my "man up" mode at the moment. Denninmi Aug 2012 #21
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And it started out well, and ended up being one Hell of a tough day. Denninmi Aug 2012 #23
Thank you for this diary. Your perseverance HelpmeHelp Aug 2012 #24
Well, I'm hardly an inspiration. I'm more of a basket case. Denninmi Aug 2012 #25
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" And I never will." Tobin S. Aug 2012 #27
Hey, congrats to you and your wife. That's awesome. Denninmi Aug 2012 #28
Thank you very much! Tobin S. Aug 2012 #29
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I just know that you are in emotional distress and, from what you've written here, Tobin S. Aug 2012 #31
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