Mental Health Support

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I think you can, but it will probably take a lot of inner work. I thought there might be something like this in your history. I'm going to give you an example of what is possible.

My wife likes this show called "Ruby." It's about this morbidly obese woman named Ruby who is trying to take control of her life. I was watching an episode where she was in group therapy with several other obese women. My wife told me a little about the therapist for the group.

When she was 4 years old, her mother was having an affair with a guy from next door. When her husband was at work she would have the guy over and they'd do their thing. The child would see the man coming and going and her mother would tell her not to say anything to daddy about the man.

Then one day her father must have been suspicious and he asked the child if the man next door had been in the house when he was gone and she told him that he had. Her father went next door with a knife and sliced the man's throat. He stumbled outside, blood going everywhere, before dying. The child witnessed it.

She probably didn't have much of a father to begin with, but he was definitely gone after that. And imagine how she must have felt thinking that it was all her fault.

Well that little girl grew up to be a strong and intelligent woman, I'm sure with a lot of help along the way, and now she teaches other women who need help how to confront their demons.

I'm not saying this to downplay what you've been through. I just want to show you what is possible. What happened to you growing up has had a lasting impression on your psyche. It has molded you into who you are. It's hard to change something like that, and it might take some time, but I think you can do it. They changed your old man for the better in less than a year and it sounds like he had some pretty serious issues. I think you can do it.