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Pacifist Patriot

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53. That is extremely hard to predict.

Fri Sep 29, 2023, 02:55 PM

Sep 2023

I've been in HR for a dozen years and unfortunately part of too many terminations. There are absolutely no warnings signs that I can tell.

A guy whose hobby was building guns from scratch went meekly and I never heard from him again.
A woman who was seemingly normal, but unproductive lost her shit and threw a laptop across the room at me.

I've developed something of an instinct, but I don't rely on it. Chances are he's a little punk who will bluster and then slink away to get another job only to lose that one in a matter of weeks. All while not learning one damn thing because he will always place the blame elsewhere than himself.

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I had to fire someone today [View all] vercetti2021 Sep 2023 OP

Be careful. He maybe one who retaliates. brush Sep 2023 #1

+100 sinkingfeeling Sep 2023 #5

+1 2naSalit Sep 2023 #9

Maybe vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #10

I was thinking that too dflprincess Sep 2023 #26

I always walk them out vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #45

I agree. That's a good practice in general. Pacifist Patriot Sep 2023 #54

That is extremely hard to predict. Pacifist Patriot Sep 2023 #53

I was about to say the same Catherine Vincent Sep 2023 #62

He will never be able to hold a job mercuryblues Sep 2023 #2

Maybe in construction vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #12

Probably wouldn't work out in construction JustABozoOnThisBus Sep 2023 #60

Lol..and I'm not a boomer... I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2023 #65

Oil fields. Republican political offices quakerboy Sep 2023 #22

Nah. matt gaetz might be hiring. Jakes Progress Sep 2023 #61

I am a person that hates capitalism but... I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2023 #64

Imo, it's important to make sure both sides have their say Deuxcents Sep 2023 #3

I'm really sorry you and your employee had to go through this. badhair77 Sep 2023 #4

That sounds difficult. Thumbs up for sticking up for your female employee! Beakybird Sep 2023 #6

OMG, how horribly disrespectful, scary, really. Laffy Kat Sep 2023 #7

I know the reason vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #15

Hopefully, he'll start re-thinking his behavior. Laffy Kat Sep 2023 #20

Doubt it vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #21

Sad, sad, sad. nt Laffy Kat Sep 2023 #24

Narcissistic little whiney children I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2023 #66

Not to minimize the misogyny, but eventually, whathehell Sep 2023 #35

I feel sorry for the boy's mother Captain Zero Sep 2023 #56

He more than likely learned the behavior from his father. Laffy Kat Sep 2023 #57

I'm impressed by the way you handled this. A complicated and emotional situation. enough Sep 2023 #8

You did absolutely do the right thing cyclonefence Sep 2023 #11

Already done vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #13

About them making it a safe space for you, so you made it a safe space for the ladies - 70sEraVet Sep 2023 #25

Contemporaneous, dated notes are good evidence summer_in_TX Sep 2023 #27

Second this. marybourg Sep 2023 #49

That's great cyclonefence Sep 2023 #32

Kudos LiberalFighter Sep 2023 #59

This message was self-deleted by its author bottomofthehill Sep 2023 #14

That is an offense that does not get a second chance. TNNurse Sep 2023 #16

Good job multigraincracker Sep 2023 #17

No he seemed okay initially vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #18

Well, I think you deserve a raise. multigraincracker Sep 2023 #28

It's a hard thing to do. You definitely had cause. littlemissmartypants Sep 2023 #19

Good for you. That language is not acceptable. yardwork Sep 2023 #23

Just wanted to say I agree with several of the posts above, you did good. Let him take his snarky iluvtennis Sep 2023 #29

Most places I've worked (not in the restaurant trade) people are on probation FakeNoose Sep 2023 #30

Good on you..I'd guess it's not his first firing whathehell Sep 2023 #31

He gets fired enough, one of two things will happen Warpy Sep 2023 #33

It sounds like you were more than fair. yonder Sep 2023 #34

Congrats on being a manager! LeftInTX Sep 2023 #36

Congrats on doing the right thing, Grey Sep 2023 #37

Be careful. PlutosHeart Sep 2023 #38

They aren't all like that. Aussie105 Sep 2023 #39

I would have done the same bhikkhu Sep 2023 #40

Patriarchal? vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #43

Phone takes money Smackdown2019 Sep 2023 #41

No choice but firing Nululu Sep 2023 #42

Seems like it vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #44

But still bad. Like saying honey or sweetie to an employee. Nululu Sep 2023 #46

Well good thing I don't say those vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #47

You did the right thing. You did what had to be done. CousinIT Sep 2023 #48

Life will be better. Stick with what you know is right. twodogsbarking Sep 2023 #50

Meanwhile, conservatives have their panties in a wad because fewer women are willing to get Lonestarblue Sep 2023 #51

Women don't want losers or abusers vercetti2021 Sep 2023 #52

Sometimes it just has to be done. byronius Sep 2023 #55

If I had a business it would be a co op I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2023 #67

Good idea. byronius Oct 2023 #68

Document it. LiberalFighter Sep 2023 #58

Well done, vercetti2021! MLAA Sep 2023 #63