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Still Blue in PDX

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4. I have a coworker who is supremely confident, while I wear an invisibility cloak.

Sat Feb 16, 2013, 12:31 PM

Feb 2013

We do essentially the same job, but she is the one who gets the glory. She even told me that part of her success in school was knowing what the teacher wanted and delivering it, and I have seen her "working" our managers in the same way, telling them things that directly contradict what she has told me in confidence.

I have to remind myself almost every day not to be resentful of her ability to sell herself. I was raised more with the philosophy espoused by Miss Manners, "It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help," but I'm not sure that's true.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Locut0s Feb 2013 OP

To paraphrase George Burns annabanana Feb 2013 #1

It would surprise me if it were normal, but that SOME are this way does not surprise me at all... Locut0s Feb 2013 #7

I think that's true to a certain degree Tobin S. Feb 2013 #2

Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot! I agree that... Locut0s Feb 2013 #8

It's a learnable skill, and it has a positive feedback loop. Denninmi Feb 2013 #3

Indeed frequent exposure to uncomfortable situations does breed confidence... Locut0s Feb 2013 #9

I have a coworker who is supremely confident, while I wear an invisibility cloak. Still Blue in PDX Feb 2013 #4

Thanks for sharing that, I can relate 100% :( Locut0s Feb 2013 #10

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance postatomic Feb 2013 #5

Indeed but the way our society is structured.... Locut0s Feb 2013 #11

What if it isn't confidence but is instead major histocompatability complexes? HereSince1628 Feb 2013 #6