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Hoyt

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39. Your future can't be worse than it is now. Who knows, Medicare will cover treatment for your husband

Sun Jul 30, 2017, 04:49 PM

Jul 2017

Maybe you'll meet another person in your position and can help each other. Maybe a reconciliation with family, somehow. But I doubt you can think clearly about your future where you are now. I know I'm just saying things without knowing/understanding the totality of your situation, so it time for more experienced and trained folks to jump in. I sure hope things work out and please keep posting here.

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What to do about a drunk husband who continues to threaten your life? [View all] angstlessk Jul 2017 OP

I have recorded his threats, but I really am dependent on him angstlessk Jul 2017 #1

How did you record his threats exactly? With what device? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #50

My laptop has a mic that records outside voices angstlessk Jul 2017 #58

Leave. eShirl Jul 2017 #2

And go where? I cannot leave while he's in the house angstlessk Jul 2017 #7

Call the cops when he's 'misbehaving,' have them take him into custody, elleng Jul 2017 #17

I am basically home bound...if he leaves, or I have nowhere to go..I cannot take care of myself? angstlessk Jul 2017 #3

Why are you homebound? marylandblue Jul 2017 #9

I am old, and going down the stairs has become a problem angstlessk Jul 2017 #11

Contact a woman's shelter, they will help you find an exit plan. procon Jul 2017 #15

I am on Social Security...and I guess Medicare? angstlessk Jul 2017 #20

Medicare depending on age, medicAID depending on ability and circumstances. elleng Jul 2017 #23

That's really good, see, you have some escape money. procon Jul 2017 #29

Excellent advice. JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #21

I have to be careful because he looks over my shoulder...and I do not have a phone of my own angstlessk Jul 2017 #27

Tracfone. Cheap. No contract. Walmart: less than $20 and you're set. procon Jul 2017 #30

I am home bound, and he collects all things sent to the house. angstlessk Jul 2017 #31

If you're being held prisoner, all the more reason to act urgently and get out. procon Jul 2017 #33

Then you need to make contact w the police and shelter groups via email... and figure out how to bettyellen Jul 2017 #53

Never thought about that...was going to leave with the clothes on my back angstlessk Jul 2017 #63

Make a list and a plan and hide them. IDs, whatever banking and credit stuff and whatever can fit in bettyellen Jul 2017 #67

There is so much stuff to tell..I have NO light in my room angstlessk Jul 2017 #68

Well then you have to work w what you have NOW - the computer- start reaching out NOW bettyellen Jul 2017 #73

THIS mahina Jul 2017 #71

Do you have any outside support? JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #4

No one, I abandoned my family years ago angstlessk Jul 2017 #5

Siblings? sharedvalues Jul 2017 #41

That IS a possibility...will have to think thids out...I would LOVE angstlessk Jul 2017 #64

I really hope it works out for you! sharedvalues Jul 2017 #74

Leave. WhiteTara Jul 2017 #6

Go to Al-Anon meetings for support marylandblue Jul 2017 #8

Leave! Its the way and you know that already, yeah? procon Jul 2017 #10

How to go...where to go? angstlessk Jul 2017 #13

See my reply #15 above. procon Jul 2017 #24

Leave CatMor Jul 2017 #12

I connected to one organization about him raising an ax over my head angstlessk Jul 2017 #16

That's awful CatMor Jul 2017 #22

You need to leave ASAP. A belligerent drunk can turn violent at any time. Warpy Jul 2017 #14

I cannot leave the house unless he is gone angstlessk Jul 2017 #18

Elder services might be able to help you if you're over 60 Warpy Jul 2017 #28

Please contact a women's shelter. cwydro Jul 2017 #19

Call police then is a local abuse shelter available the police will help you TEB Jul 2017 #25

You have realized this is a terrible situation. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #26

Hoping you can take advice from these good people, some have been there. I know it's tough. Hoyt Jul 2017 #32

Tough is an understatement...but I am sure my life depends on it angstlessk Jul 2017 #36

Your future can't be worse than it is now. Who knows, Medicare will cover treatment for your husband Hoyt Jul 2017 #39

Your future is to be a person who has enough resources to meet her needs, and who Squinch Jul 2017 #76

This post refuses to post angstlessk Jul 2017 #34

Heres a link with some. Good luck, it's difficult to get out, but worth it uppityperson Jul 2017 #38

Thank you! Not sure which one I called that got him arrested.. angstlessk Jul 2017 #46

You have dogs? What will happen to them when you leave? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #75

I am a survivor of DA jodymarie aimee Jul 2017 #35

You think I am looking for attention? I have been here since it began and barely post angstlessk Jul 2017 #40

Here is my history with this man angstlessk Jul 2017 #56

You're way off base. chervilant Jul 2017 #59

I will need to plan my escape carefully angstlessk Jul 2017 #60

It sounds to me chervilant Jul 2017 #61

I have tapes of his threats angstlessk Jul 2017 #62

He held an axe over your head and then made you order two more? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #37

Oh Gosh...I forgot..I can call from my laptop! angstlessk Jul 2017 #42

You don't have a landline phone at your house? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #45

no cooking...cans of food only..I used to cook, he used to cook, now only canned food. angstlessk Jul 2017 #47

Don't wait, call. Even if you get interrupted help will come. nt procon Jul 2017 #57

Make a resolution to do SOMETHING every day sharedvalues Jul 2017 #43

I like that...maybe not as you say, but as I can angstlessk Jul 2017 #69

you should quit stalling and get out of there Kali Jul 2017 #44

Wait, you haven't left your home for 11 years? marylandblue Jul 2017 #49

Don't know if I'm afraid to, or just can't? angstlessk Jul 2017 #54

You need an assessment by a doctor, they'll probably take you marylandblue Jul 2017 #65

Sounds like some form of 'depression.' elleng Jul 2017 #72

Hmm. cwydro Aug 2017 #78

Please get help shenmue Jul 2017 #48

angstlessk, here are some quick resources for you. procon Jul 2017 #51

What brought this all to a head...a kitten! angstlessk Jul 2017 #52

You have the internet... use it. procon Jul 2017 #55

Is Linda family? pandr32 Jul 2017 #66

Run, honey. mahina Jul 2017 #70

He now brought in the kitty he kicked out AND her sister angstlessk Aug 2017 #77

from this group sop- mopinko Aug 2017 #79