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Ancestry/Genealogy

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shanti

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39. Well, I have an ex
Fri Nov 3, 2017, 08:02 PM
Nov 2017

and found his family for him. Ex is computer illiterate and doesn't want to learn. We have 3 sons together and I do the family tree, which includes him and my sons. A DNA test on Ancestry by my oldest son (whose profile I manage on Ancestry), showed he had a very close relative to someone that Ex knew nothing about. Must add, Ex never knew his bio father. He was always told it was one man, but it was not, it was this new family on Ancestry. They reached out to my son by way of me, and I handled it from there. The person I was dealing with was the wife of my ex's new first cousin, so we both were "outsiders," so to speak.

This cousin and my ex live in the same city, and did meet up at a restaurant. My ex was happy to find out the truth, and like the new family. The cousin had his other cousin take the test and found that my ex was indeed, his half-brother. However, it's been at least a month, and the brother still hasn't reached out to my ex. My ex wants me to intervene, but I feel uncomfortable with doing anything else at this point.

I have no intention of meeting this family though. I did my part. I did the research for my sons and their progeny, and glad to have done so.

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Not sure how to reply [View all] CountAllVotes Sep 2017 OP
Just tell her! cilla4progress Sep 2017 #1
I agree drmeow Sep 2017 #3
I mentioned it to her CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #6
I just wonder why she's insisting on coming Warpy Sep 2017 #28
I agree: just tell her. Besides, the tone fierywoman Sep 2017 #2
Especially since it's her ex's family... More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #4
She has a child by her ex CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #9
Ah, thanks for more information More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #33
Your are right CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #35
Your first impression is usually the right one. sandensea Sep 2017 #5
Tell her your parole officer sharp_stick Sep 2017 #7
LOL! (nt) Sylvere Oct 2017 #38
At some point you just have to be cilla4progress Sep 2017 #8
You know ... CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #14
Yes CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #19
She's researching her ex's family? cyclonefence Sep 2017 #10
Actually that is true CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #15
Well, then, to hell with her! cyclonefence Sep 2017 #29
Just to be fair, she is researching her child's father's family as well... Thor_MN Sep 2017 #32
Not going to print and mail hard copies. CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #36
She's an 'X', of a 'distant' cousin... WePurrsevere Sep 2017 #11
I wouldn't trust anyone I didn't know to come to my home.. LakeArenal Sep 2017 #12
It was nice for awhile until ... CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #18
That's so nice of you More_Cowbell Sep 2017 #34
On letting unknown people come to your home dragonlady Sep 2017 #20
This woman sound pushy. Croney Sep 2017 #13
Tell her no! CozyMystery Sep 2017 #16
Right! Don't beat around the bush! CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #17
Well, I have an ex shanti Nov 2017 #39
I've had many requests from my Ancestry research GentryDixon Sep 2017 #21
Interesting CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #22
You missed my point. GentryDixon Sep 2017 #24
Thanks for the clarification CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #25
I cancelled mine a few years ago. GentryDixon Sep 2017 #31
Just say NO, no excuses, no explanations needed. . Go with your gut instinct. RestoreAmerica2020 Sep 2017 #23
Write to her vlyons Sep 2017 #26
say no, block if there is further contact from her. irisblue Sep 2017 #27
My vote is No!!! blue cat Sep 2017 #30
Update CountAllVotes Sep 2017 #37
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