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Spider Jerusalem

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14. My mother had two unknown first cousins show up after she tested with Ancestry.
Fri Jun 15, 2018, 09:17 PM
Jun 2018

It turned out after contacting one of them that he was the son of the previously unknown full sister of my grandmother; my great-grandmother left my great-grandfather in the early 1940's, and it turns out that she was pregnant and gave the child up for adoption.

The other is a mystery, but since she matches with people who are descendants of my mother's father's ancestors, and with people who are descendants of my mother's mother's ancestors,the only possibilities are a) she's the child of one of my grandfather's siblings (either an unknown child given up for adoption by my great-aunt, before she got married, or the unknown child of my great-uncle, born to someone other than his wife), or b) she's the daughter of a previously unknown child of my grandfather's (since half-niece is in the same range of shared DNA as first cousin). I've contacted this second person, but she hasn't logged in in over a year and I'm not really expecting a reply.

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Yes snowybirdie Jun 2018 #1
Yes, there is one person and possibly more that could be upset, depending on what the seaglass Jun 2018 #6
I'd let it go Phoenix61 Jun 2018 #2
I already asked my Aunt (my dad's sister) and she never heard of her. I discussed this with seaglass Jun 2018 #3
From a way too personal experience radical noodle Jun 2018 #13
Yup CountAllVotes Sep 2018 #16
Not all relatives are good finds radical noodle Sep 2018 #17
oh I already knew these people were scum! CountAllVotes Sep 2018 #18
I think some of the "Indian blood" stories radical noodle Sep 2018 #19
I'd say the ball is in her court The Genealogist Jun 2018 #4
Agreed. I do know that there are 2 family trees created for my family and that 3 people seaglass Jun 2018 #5
I agree with poster above that the ball is in her court. fleur-de-lisa Jun 2018 #7
Yes, my sister paid for one of our male cousins to have his DNA tested csziggy Jun 2018 #8
Yes. It happened to me and it has been very emotional. Nt jaysunb Jun 2018 #9
I'm trying to put myself in this woman's place but since I don't know the circumstances seaglass Jun 2018 #10
No response yet but I have concluded that the relationship is either aunt or half-sister. seaglass Jun 2018 #11
Almost a year ago... 'I' was the surprise match... WePurrsevere Jun 2018 #12
My mother had two unknown first cousins show up after she tested with Ancestry. Spider Jerusalem Jun 2018 #14
She may well be customerserviceguy Jul 2018 #15
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