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customerserviceguy

(25,199 posts)
15. She may well be
Tue Jul 17, 2018, 08:39 PM
Jul 2018

an adopted person who was never told the truth about her origins. I was adopted, and I share a lot of stories with people on the DNA websites. One person who responded to me told me that she was the administrator of her husband's 23andMe account, and only after his mother died, did he get the baby book she kept, which told the truth of his being adopted.

The best thing to do is be supportive, saying, "When you're ready to talk this out, I'm here for you," or something to that effect. I've seen a more than a few situations where an adopted person found a close biological relative, even a parent, and it took months for the shock of it all to wear off enough to the point where cautious communication can be attempted.

People lie, but DNA always tells the truth. It's something that our society needs to be able to process. A lot of sperm donors are finding out that the children they made possible are able to find them.

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Yes snowybirdie Jun 2018 #1
Yes, there is one person and possibly more that could be upset, depending on what the seaglass Jun 2018 #6
I'd let it go Phoenix61 Jun 2018 #2
I already asked my Aunt (my dad's sister) and she never heard of her. I discussed this with seaglass Jun 2018 #3
From a way too personal experience radical noodle Jun 2018 #13
Yup CountAllVotes Sep 2018 #16
Not all relatives are good finds radical noodle Sep 2018 #17
oh I already knew these people were scum! CountAllVotes Sep 2018 #18
I think some of the "Indian blood" stories radical noodle Sep 2018 #19
I'd say the ball is in her court The Genealogist Jun 2018 #4
Agreed. I do know that there are 2 family trees created for my family and that 3 people seaglass Jun 2018 #5
I agree with poster above that the ball is in her court. fleur-de-lisa Jun 2018 #7
Yes, my sister paid for one of our male cousins to have his DNA tested csziggy Jun 2018 #8
Yes. It happened to me and it has been very emotional. Nt jaysunb Jun 2018 #9
I'm trying to put myself in this woman's place but since I don't know the circumstances seaglass Jun 2018 #10
No response yet but I have concluded that the relationship is either aunt or half-sister. seaglass Jun 2018 #11
Almost a year ago... 'I' was the surprise match... WePurrsevere Jun 2018 #12
My mother had two unknown first cousins show up after she tested with Ancestry. Spider Jerusalem Jun 2018 #14
She may well be customerserviceguy Jul 2018 #15
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