Ancestry/Genealogy

customerserviceguy

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17. Please help her

Reply to ihas2stinkyfeet (Original post)

Fri Oct 2, 2020, 11:17 PM

Oct 2020

She may have been looking for years.

I was adopted, and did DNA tests back in March, 2015. Only last month did a first cousin, once removed show up. Then, three weeks later, his uncle tested, and confirmed what I was able to figure out about who my bio-mother is.

I have tried to reach out to her son, and another member of the family, assuring them that I only want some health history, and maybe some innocuous family history, and they have not gotten back to me. I don't mean to disrupt their lives, but I would love to see a photo of my bio-mom. As far as I can tell, she is still alive at the age of 85. She showed up as still being alive in an obituary for one of her brothers-in-law as recently as February of this year.

In genetic genealogy we have a saying, "People lie, DNA doesn't."

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holy cow. i sent a message to my nearest dna match. she is adopted. [View all] ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 OP

I bet she's happy to have more roots now! Karadeniz Oct 2020 #1

No surprises with my own DNA matches The Genealogist Oct 2020 #2

i got in touch w my mom's brother's daughter. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #5

That is a LOT of new relatives to learn about The Genealogist Oct 2020 #11

yeah. my dad was a traveling salesman. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #12

That's exciting! I hope you can help her discover her unknown family MaryMagdaline Oct 2020 #3

i will sure see what i can do. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #6

My husband had something similar happen to him. mommymarine2003 Oct 2020 #4

well, i have to assume that is why the lady did the dna thing. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #7

A friend of mine that has since passed away did the DNA test. He discovered he fathered a doc03 Oct 2020 #8

aint science grand? ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #10

He was so happy about meeting her, he was very ill at the time and doc03 Oct 2020 #13

funny story. when i first did 23/me ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #9

also had a nice chat w a second cousin who still lives in offaly county. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #14

In trying to locate my fourth great grandfather's lineage csziggy Oct 2020 #15

well that's a great euphemism! interesting stuff this science. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #16

Family history is very interesting csziggy Oct 2020 #23

well, that english ggrandma doesnt seem to have left much of a trace. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #24

My only Irish ancestors were Protestants probably brought in by the English csziggy Oct 2020 #25

hmmm. well, no spanish, and the only african was sub saharan. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #26

Moorish is an old broad term, just as "Arab" or "Muslim" are today csziggy Oct 2020 #27

but no birth certs. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #28

Yeah, lots of families with no birth certificates csziggy Oct 2020 #31

i will check. there was a baby that died. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #32

RE: People of the British Isles wnylib Oct 2020 #37

Thank you for that detailed discussion! csziggy Oct 2020 #38

So true. There are no "pure" ethnicities. wnylib Oct 2020 #39

Learning the history and stories of my ancestors was what got me hooked on geneaology csziggy Oct 2020 #40

There is Native American ancestry in my family, too. wnylib Oct 2020 #41

We also have a mix of physical characteristics in the different families csziggy Oct 2020 #42

If your cousin is a direct line wnylib Oct 2020 #43

Yeah, my cousin showed no Native American DNA at all csziggy Oct 2020 #44

We know from craft items handed down wnylib Oct 2020 #45

The good news is that DNA results for Native Americans are more accurate now csziggy Oct 2020 #46

Goodness! Your family's history parallels mine. wnylib Oct 2020 #47

Yes, I agree. The only reason I'd like to know where I cam from is to understand csziggy Oct 2020 #48

My ancestors had a farm near wnylib Oct 2020 #49

Please help her customerserviceguy Oct 2020 #17

oh i am happy to. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #18

Good, I'm glad to hear that customerserviceguy Oct 2020 #19

well, you can just upload to the site. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #20

Great, that makes it easy customerserviceguy Oct 2020 #21

yeah. different goals. you want to narrow it down, and i want to expand. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #22

As an adoptee & advocate, I'm so very glad you're helping her... WePurrsevere Oct 2020 #29

i wonder, tho. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #30

The 'removed' thing myccrider Oct 2020 #34

Is through Ancestry.com? myccrider Oct 2020 #33

this was my heritage. ihas2stinkyfeet Oct 2020 #35

Yeah, Ancestry has been getting bad, myccrider Oct 2020 #36