It's still so damn confusing... [View all]

Sorry, don't mean to be thick-headed, but I'm still confused about just which federal laws will apply and how to myself and my partner, who wish to marry after nearly 25 years of a committed relationship. We live in WV, which doesn't allow us to marry but we hoped to tie the knot in neighboring Maryland, which does. Of course, WV will not recognize our marriage. To complicate matters, my partner works in Virginia, which has some of the most oppressive anti-gay laws in the country. Not only does Virginia not recognize gay marriages from other states, gay folks are not allowed to enter into any legal contract that includes any provisions even resembling those between married heterosexual couples.
We had hoped upon retirement to move to Ohio to be closer to my family but of course that's out and right now it looks as if (upon retirement) we will have to move once again to a state that recognizes our marriage, even though that will take us even farther away from family.
Sooo... we are still confused about how the recent Supreme Court decision will affect us and whether or not we're still stuck in this ridiculous, demeaning and capricious carnival of laws. Can anyone simplify this for us? Hell, if we marry, we won't even know under which set of laws to file our tax returns. Any help here?