Seniors

For me, I dived deep into introspection rather than try to avoid it. I felt I needed to figure out why I had remained in a bad marriage for so many years. I started out trying to figure out what the hell was wrong with my now-ex-husband, but then learned that it was much more important to figure out who and what *I* was.

I am now four years out from my divorce, and I'm the happiest I've been in my entire life. I learned how to be my own best friend, and I learned how to love myself. I knew I'd be just fine being single for the rest of my life.

I really wasn't looking for anyone, but a little over a year ago I met the most amazing (for me) man. A couple of times he's said that he wished that we'd met sooner, but I think that we met at exactly the right point in our respective lives.

We may not have a whole lot of years left, but if it ends tomorrow, I'll be fine. I'll still have my own very best friend with me, and that best friend is me.

Edited to add: I'm not saying the writer was wrong about introspection. The way I worked through things worked for me, and I'd never tell anyone else that their own way was wrong. I'm very happy for her that she found her own joy.