African American

and was a pain in the ass stickler for speaking proper English. But he still taught his children the ways of white folks that you're exhibiting right here. Explaining why being called articulate left a bitter taste in my mouth was definitely one of the ways we had to understand.

When you come to ask for understanding at least acknowledge some of it besides stressing your feelings. Though it is your privilege to do so after you've had plenty of explanations as why it is not a compliment, imo, you're a classic Number 10 of sociologist's Robin DiAngelo's The Rules of Engagement

You must focus on my intentions, which cancel out the impact of my behavior.