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is 86 and has had all of her directives set up for at least 2 decades. My father died 44 yrs ago. She doesn't want anybody to see her body in a casket so there will be no viewing. No funeral either because she's afraid my siblings will have fights. Our family is divided into liberals and assholes. She wants to be cremated. My youngest sibling is the executor since he's the only one that lives in town yet. I doubt he'll outlive my mother though. He's had heart disease for 30 yrs and has 7 stents in his heart.

My oldest brother that lived in CA died in September a few weeks before his 66th birthday and that about sent her into orbit. They had a gathering at a local restaurant so no service for him.

Mother never wanted to live this long and losing her first born was very upsetting to her. She is crippled from arthritis and heart disease and is angry to be waking up everyday.

When my 64 yr old sister had a stroke in October, I was really afraid we'd lose her too. My sister had two brain surgeries and is home recovering now. She's doing well but I thought Mother was going to die from a broken heart. She wasn't supposed to outlive her children even though her grandmother lived to be 104 and outlived many of her children and some of her grandchildren (my mother's siblings).

Since I live in Switzerland now, it's going to be hard to figure out what to do when she does goes. She is the only reason I visited my hometown in the past 5 yrs. I'm grateful she has her directives set up and every day hope she can go in peace because she doesn't want to live another day.

MM - I hope your parents' passings go fast and painlessly (if you know what I mean). Peace to you and yours.