Astrology, Spirituality & Alternative Healing

rosesaylavee

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14. After my dad died when I was a kid

Reply to freeplessinseattle (Original post)

Sat Dec 31, 2011, 06:59 PM

Dec 2011

and on a few other occasions, I spent a lot of time being PO'd at 'god'. I had a lot of people tell me it was 'god's will' that my dad died young. 'What a bunch of bunk' is what I thought then and it started me on my spiritual journey. But it was a painful way to start.

I don't think there is anything you can say or do to make it go quicker than she takes it right now. Be there, bring her soup, call her every day, give her whatever time and energy you can. Don't try to fix it. It's something she has to do on her own. Let her know that you know it will take time but you have faith that she will come out ok on the other end of this journey and you are there for the duration and will help when you can.

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My friend's young daughter passed away from leukemia recently and she is mad at God [View all] freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 OP

What I appreciated the most... OneGrassRoot Dec 2011 #1

I do get that, but simply remaining silent while she is pouring her heart out freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #2

I don't have insight about the religious aspect... OneGrassRoot Dec 2011 #4

Thank you, it does help to know that simply being silent isn't necessarily freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #9

Comforting doesn't necessarily mean advice-giving Remember Me Dec 2011 #15

i'm of the same mind as OGR. Howler Dec 2011 #3

Thank you. I guess i just feel that if I remain silent freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #6

maybe she feels more comfortable telling you that WolverineDG Dec 2011 #12

Whoa ! Whoa! Whoa! Howler Dec 2011 #19

I agree with OGR and Howler Tumbulu Dec 2011 #5

Thank you, that is a good idea, I will ponder on some ideas freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #7

Perhaps ask what she needs and listen Matariki Dec 2011 #8

she says she wants to try to process things but doesn't know how freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #10

Yeah, that's really really tough Matariki Dec 2011 #13

Thank you Matariki! and get this, her daughter was signed up for a promising study freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #16

Probably the worst thing given to my dad & me when my mom died was WolverineDG Dec 2011 #11

After my dad died when I was a kid rosesaylavee Dec 2011 #14

Be her friend. BlueToTheBone Dec 2011 #17

Grieving PADemD Dec 2011 #18

You know Freepless, I'm dealing with cancer as we speak and I just got home from watching Ecumenist Jan 2012 #20

I'm so sorry to hear that. Cleita Jan 2012 #22

Thank you Cleita!! Ecumenist Jan 2012 #25

what ecumenist said magical thyme Jan 2012 #23

If you stop believing in God, then there is no one to blame would be a cynic's answer. Cleita Jan 2012 #21

Well Said, Cleita! Ecumenist Jan 2012 #24

Here's my two cents. SheilaT Jan 2012 #26