Muslim/Islam

actions of an idiot in that group creates a framing that puts the people in that group on the defensive.

There is a pretty significant trend in America among successful and wealthy men to jettison their wives(who spent a decade or more helping them accumulate their wealth) after they hit 40 and saddle them with 90% of the child rearing headaches while they rebrand themselves and pick up a young trophy wife in their 20s. This trend is a much more substantial one than the criminal one you site.

I presume that you are an American male. How would you like the question framed in such a way that you are expected to answer for that behavior.

Moreover I just find it really odd that you would ever find yourself in a situation where you would be in a situation where an obscure story from England is brought up in conversation. If that does happen you can simply say "Sounds like criminal behavior to me and there are people in every group that commits crimes and then misuse their traditions to cover for it. I bet that guy doesn't even go to a mosque. There are a million Muslims in Michigan and I never hear of any of them use Islam to justify that behavior although we have people in Utah and Arizona who call themselves Christians and Mormons and openly state that their religion expects them to marry women about that age. Doesn't mean that either Mormons or Christians in general approve of that practice."