Atheists & Agnostics

NNadir

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9. I have a sister-in-law in this space for over 30 years.

Mon Jul 15, 2024, 11:17 AM

Jul 2024

I have learned to tolerate it, although it was often touch and go.

Tolerating it meant accepting that the cult took precedence over family always, even her own daughter although mutual tolerance evolved there too.

I could never live with her though. It would be a deal breaker.

I'm not you, but experience teaches that cult membership involves the loss of love and respect. Think of it as if it were an affair, and the SO has announced that you're second in affection to the new lover.

That would be my advice.

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So my S.O. just informed me she may be joining a fundy church [View all] orangecrush Jul 2024 OP

Get out. Run do not walk. Autumn Jul 2024 #1

Start packing. flying_wahini Jul 2024 #2

Study the things Jesus said which they don't IbogaProject Jul 2024 #3

They believe homosexuality is a "sin" orangecrush Jul 2024 #7

First of all, they do study those things Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #45

Thank you IbogaProject Aug 2024 #48

She's a free American. Unfortunately she has made her decisions. LakeArenal Jul 2024 #4

I got into it with a few of them orangecrush Jul 2024 #6

You dont want to go down this road gay texan Jul 2024 #5

Yeah, that's a given orangecrush Jul 2024 #8

I have a sister-in-law in this space for over 30 years. NNadir Jul 2024 #9

Hmmm... progressoid Jul 2024 #10

I suggested orangecrush Jul 2024 #12

I kind of get that. progressoid Jul 2024 #15

Except that's not how it works in reality Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #46

Have you asked her why she wants to go? intheflow Jul 2024 #11

Best answer, thanks orangecrush Jul 2024 #13

Congrats on your 10 years! intheflow Jul 2024 #14

Humans are infinitesimally tiny orangecrush Jul 2024 #16

Agnostic isn't a religious position. Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #47

Great advice. I attend a UU Fellowship and multigraincracker Jul 2024 #28

If you like the Red Letter Bible, you might also like the Jefferson Bible. intheflow Jul 2024 #38

Practice kindness. Buzz cook Jul 2024 #17

Great response orangecrush Jul 2024 #20

You don't want to make her defensive, so no more confrontations, they don't work. Warpy Jul 2024 #18

This message was self-deleted by its author orangecrush Jul 2024 #21

Thanks Warpy orangecrush Jul 2024 #23

You refer to this person as your S.O. Collimator Jul 2024 #19

Thank you orangecrush Jul 2024 #22

I grew up in a fundy church. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #24

Thanks so much orangecrush Jul 2024 #31

Thank you. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #37

I would suggest a gift of 2 books: LT Barclay Jul 2024 #25

Thanks much! orangecrush Jul 2024 #32

Suggest a unitarian universalist church as a compromise? GPV Jul 2024 #26

Possibly orangecrush Jul 2024 #33

let her know you are willing to sacrifice your relationship.... samnsara Jul 2024 #27

Yep orangecrush Jul 2024 #36

Did she tell you MorbidButterflyTat Jul 2024 #29

Discussion was had orangecrush Jul 2024 #30

I would approach the situation from a realpolitik perspective. UniqueUserName Jul 2024 #34

Interesting orangecrush Jul 2024 #35

A thought... HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #39

I believe the community thing orangecrush Jul 2024 #40

Then I think what you said about riding it out is the right approach. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #41

Thank you orangecrush Jul 2024 #42

Did she tell you Faux pas Jul 2024 #43

I was married to a very religious person Farmer-Rick Aug 2024 #44

I can tell you now that your relationship is probably over. Zoomie1986 Aug 2024 #49