A week ago Friday I found out my father was dead. I've been estranged from my family since 2013. [View all]

My father died a month ago. Not one of my supposedly Christian family members felt a need to

inform me! It was not an easy decision to leave, and I felt immense guilt and grief leaving.

I just couldn't take the abuse anymore. Catching up on emails today I found an email from my

bank that read, "Action needed to complete your request. We need more information to update

and/or manage the accounts of (my father's name.)"

It then instructed me to go to the message center. I didn't click on anything in the message, and

sent a copy of the email to Security at my bank thinking it was phishing. Then went on to check the

message center on my bank's website. They want a death certificate! Someone had contacted

them--the email said "to complete your request." Can't figure out who would have done that,

maybe a lawyer? No one in my house, so I assume it is the executor of the my father's estate?

My husband's job took us to a foreign country for a year many years ago, and the company

wanted you to make a will and have someone take care of bills and such here in the states.

Still close to my family then, so I chose my father, adding him to the bank account for bills.

Starting in 2007 I asked my father to come to my bank and sign papers taking his name off

our account, (he lived a couple of hours away.) He always had an excuse why that wasn't possible.

I ended up moving the money into a new account because I lost a checkbook, but because my

father wouldn't come sign the papers, I've had to leave money in that old account since 2007.

The minimum, of course, but a pain to keep track of. Does anyone know anything about who would

have started this process? Don't know anything about wills and such, I'm freaking out!

I don't want any contact with my family. Never had to get a death certificate, so I'll have to do that,

too. Thought I'd done all my grieving, and now this has destroyed what peace I've finally achieved.