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Bereavement

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Marthe48

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Fri Mar 3, 2017, 08:52 PM Mar 2017

My husband passed away 1/26/17 [View all]

He was diagnosed with cancer 10 months before he died and had chemo and radiation almost the whole time. We knew when he was diagnosed that he didn't have much of a chance, which didn't make it easier to accept his death. We were married 45 1/2 years. We had a loving relationship and I miss him. We both wanted to beat the odds, but it didn't work out.
I have a lot of support from family and friends. I have a little bit too much support from my sister and I would like her to dial it back. We aren't that close and I stopped sharing really personal stuff with her a long time ago. I am grateful that she calls and texts, but I'd be more comfortable with less. I sometimes don't answer the phone when she calls. Has anyone else had so much support they would like a break from it? Should I tell her that less is better? She is a fragile alcoholic, so I don't want to be cruel.
My children, friends and other relatives stay in touch with a frequency I am more comfortable dealing with.
Thanks for any replies. I understand that dealing with losses is never easy.

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My husband passed away 1/26/17 [View all] Marthe48 Mar 2017 OP
Very Sorry! Chasstev365 Mar 2017 #1
Thank you Chasstev Marthe48 Mar 2017 #8
I'm so sorry for your loss. WhiteTara Mar 2017 #2
Thank you White Tara Marthe48 Mar 2017 #9
Anyway, just live in the moment Marthe48 Mar 2017 #23
Blessings to you! cilla4progress Mar 2017 #3
Thank you Cilla Marthe48 Mar 2017 #10
My wife of 31 years passed away GP6971 Mar 2017 #4
Thank you GP Marthe48 Mar 2017 #11
Your welcome GP6971 Mar 2017 #14
I'm sorry about your husband. As for your sister.... LisaM Mar 2017 #5
Thank you Lisa Marthe48 Mar 2017 #15
I agree with LisaM Skittles Mar 2017 #43
I am so very sorry for your loss luvMIdog Mar 2017 #6
Thank you luvMIdog Marthe48 Mar 2017 #17
My heart goes out to you at this time. It must be a huge adjustment and very painful! manicraven Mar 2017 #7
Thank you manicraven Marthe48 Mar 2017 #18
I'm very sorry for your loss. gwheezie Mar 2017 #12
Thank you gwheezie Marthe48 Mar 2017 #19
People mean well Rorey Mar 2017 #41
My sincerest sympathy, Marthe48 Useless in FL Mar 2017 #13
Thank you in FL Marthe48 Mar 2017 #20
I'm so sorry you're going through this Warpy Mar 2017 #16
Thank you, Warpy Marthe48 Mar 2017 #21
What Warpy said and all the others' insightful contributions. sprinkleeninow Mar 2017 #37
Thank you sprinkleeniow Marthe48 Mar 2017 #45
I wish you peace . Condolences lunasun Mar 2017 #22
Thank you lunasun Marthe48 Mar 2017 #24
Everyone stayed away from me when my husband died. We all did notdarkyet Mar 2017 #25
Thank you notdarkyet Marthe48 Mar 2017 #46
This thread has been so helpful cilla4progress Mar 2017 #26
I was on the DU Cancer Support subscription Marthe48 Mar 2017 #47
Just wonderful. cilla4progress Mar 2017 #62
So sad. You are just now climbing out of the depths of your loss elfin Mar 2017 #27
Thank you elfin Marthe48 Mar 2017 #48
You have my deepest sympathy, Marthe48 ailsagirl Mar 2017 #28
Thank you ailsagirl Marthe48 Mar 2017 #49
I am so sorry. Justice Mar 2017 #29
Hi Justice Marthe48 Mar 2017 #50
Sorry for your loss logosoco Mar 2017 #30
Thank you Marthe48 Mar 2017 #51
Sorry to hear of your loss bucolic_frolic Mar 2017 #31
I am so sorry for your loss. raging moderate Mar 2017 #32
... progressoid Mar 2017 #33
:) Marthe48 Mar 2017 #52
Sorry for your loss and I have a suggestion leftofcool Mar 2017 #34
Thank you leftofcool Marthe48 Mar 2017 #53
Truly sorry for your loss ATL Ebony Mar 2017 #35
Thank you ATL Ebony Marthe48 Mar 2017 #55
I am so sorry. murielm99 Mar 2017 #36
Sorry for your loss, Marthe48. democrank Mar 2017 #38
I am so sorry for your loss of your husband. Rorey Mar 2017 #39
Thank you Rorey Marthe48 Mar 2017 #54
Sorry for your loss KT2000 Mar 2017 #40
i am so sorry for your loss. barbtries Mar 2017 #42
Thank you barbtries Marthe48 Mar 2017 #58
My deepest condolences. ohheckyeah Mar 2017 #44
Thank you ohyeckyeah Marthe48 Mar 2017 #59
I am so sorry for your loss. jrthin Mar 2017 #56
Thank you jrthin Marthe48 Mar 2017 #60
May tomorrow's path to peace be more clearly marked and have fewer obstacles than today. IADEMO2004 Mar 2017 #57
Thank you IADEMO2004 Marthe48 Mar 2017 #61
Hugs to Martha48... Tikki Mar 2017 #63
Hi Tikki Marthe48 Mar 2017 #64
I'm sorry I missed this when you first posted. You have my sincere condolences. sinkingfeeling Apr 2017 #65
Thank you Marthe48 Apr 2017 #66
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