Bereavement

When Carol (my wife) died in February of breast cancer, I thought the world had ended, and in some ways it did. But now, 8 months later, I have found a new love interest and things are a whole lot better. It took another relationship to break out of the funk I was in. Now, instead of thinking so much of my deceased wife, my thoughts are focused more on my new lady and life is much easier. I'm not saying the same will work for you, but it definitely helped me get past the sorrow and tears stage. My wife would have wanted me to do exactly what I have done. We talked about it before her death. Some may think eight months is early to start a new relationship, but I'm telling ya, lonliness sucks big time, and sitting around the house lamenting doesn't do much towards moving on.

Both my mom and step-dad lost their spouses, and they got together about a year after the death of my dad. That gave me some comfort in knowing that one can find happiness again. I also found it helps to be pro-active when getting back into the dating game.
I didn't want to just wait around for something to happen, so I kinda made it happen, and I'm glad I did. I know taking my route may not be for everyone, but it sure got positive results for me. Life IS for the living, and I am sure your spouose would want you to find happiness again. WHo wouldn't want that for someone they love?

Death does come...eventually, to us all. We all get a turn, and when that turn is over, someone else gets a turn, and so on. I do not fear death for it is an inevitability, and I came to terms with my mortality when my wife died. I'll die a happy man when it's my turn to go. I have had a great life, enhanced by two wonderful women and two wonderful children and the greatest parents one could hope for.

And, this new love interest is a bonus! We aren't guaranteed tomorrow....make the best of it while you can. We'll have the memories of our deceased spouses till the day we die, but there is time to create even more wonderful memories in the time we have left. Make it count! I intend to do just that. It's just going to be another chapter in my life.

I sincerely wish you the best and I so hope you, too, can find another slice of happiness before your turn is up.