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Bereavement

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imavoter

(661 posts)
Sat Nov 6, 2021, 10:50 AM Nov 2021

My husband died suddenly in August. He was 52. [View all]

It was unexpected. He was my rock and my world.
We were together 8 years, married for 7

I'm back at work now...
But I get to probate the house...it will be ok, but
please people...make a will.

A friend called to ask me how I am doing...

"I'm ok, and hanging on by a thread at the same time."
Don't ask me how both are true.

I've never been more scared and worried in my life....just
In general. The worst thing that could happen has happened, so wtf else? I miss him so bad.

He's gone. He's everywhere.
I'm just trying to get through each day.
And make him proud of me. I loved him so.

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Deepest condolences SheltieLover Nov 2021 #1
Thank you. n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #2
Yw! SheltieLover Nov 2021 #6
He is proud of you. No question. Tetrachloride Nov 2021 #3
Omg if not for my animals imavoter Nov 2021 #63
My deepest sympathy. Cracklin Charlie Nov 2021 #4
My husband died in 2014. I was terrified. Polly Hennessey Nov 2021 #5
The 21 Year Old Son Of A Dear Friend Of Mine Also Died In 2014 COL Mustard Nov 2021 #50
Thanks imavoter Nov 2021 #64
My deepest sympathies. CrispyQ Nov 2021 #7
I feel for you. LakeArenal Nov 2021 #8
I am so sorry you lost him. tblue37 Nov 2021 #9
So sorry for your loss. TigressDem Nov 2021 #10
Thank you, that was very helpful for me. LittleGirl Nov 2021 #40
You are so welcome. Just passing on things others taught me. TigressDem Nov 2021 #97
My sympathy for you and May you find bronxiteforever Nov 2021 #11
"Don't ask me how both are true." 3catwoman3 Nov 2021 #12
So sorry about your brother. imavoter Nov 2021 #68
Peace and strength to you. kairos12 Nov 2021 #13
I amso very sorry Kimber432 Nov 2021 #14
I'm 49 with a probate attny imavoter Nov 2021 #69
My deepest sympathy Marthe48 Nov 2021 #15
thank you. imavoter Nov 2021 #70
I am so sorry pandr32 Nov 2021 #16
May he rest peacefully forever in your heart........nt Heartstrings Nov 2021 #17
May you find peace. Magoo48 Nov 2021 #18
I am so sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2021 #19
Hugs to you, 2Gingersnaps Nov 2021 #20
So sorry for your loss. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Greybnk48 Nov 2021 #21
Thank you for that. imavoter Nov 2021 #72
I very sorry for your loss. rsdsharp Nov 2021 #22
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Been there and done that and AndyS Nov 2021 #23
I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2021 #24
I am so sorry. I know your pain. Farmer-Rick Nov 2021 #25
. denbot Nov 2021 #26
I'm very sorry to hear the news. NurseJackie Nov 2021 #27
This might help. multigraincracker Nov 2021 #28
My best option is the local imavoter Nov 2021 #74
Heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss. LoisB Nov 2021 #29
I am so very sorry. Tikki Nov 2021 #30
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a terrible thing to lose a spouse. PatrickforB Nov 2021 #31
Condolences,imavoter gademocrat7 Nov 2021 #32
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Nov 2021 #33
I am so sorry. murielm99 Nov 2021 #34
thank you. n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #75
Hugs AKwannabe Nov 2021 #35
I miss him so bad. Ways Nov 2021 #36
Our deepest sympathies... Peacetrain Nov 2021 #37
Oh, imavoter, I'm so sorry. momta Nov 2021 #38
Sorry for your loss Old Crank Nov 2021 #39
What a moving expression of your heart... we are feeling you. JudyM Nov 2021 #41
understood every - single - word. stopdiggin Nov 2021 #42
I'm so sorry for your loss. May your memories of your livetohike Nov 2021 #43
Honor him with peace and happiness. The Jungle 1 Nov 2021 #44
I'm so sorry Bettie Nov 2021 #45
Condolences, imavoter sarge43 Nov 2021 #46
I'm so sorry cate94 Nov 2021 #47
I'm sure he's proud of you wryter2000 Nov 2021 #48
I am so sorry KT2000 Nov 2021 #49
My wife died unexpectedly last November Colorado Liberal Nov 2021 #51
thank you so much imavoter Nov 2021 #76
My heartfelt condolences. Solly Mack Nov 2021 #52
So very sorry for your loss. Please know that your DU family is holding you and yours in niyad Nov 2021 #53
no words really... markie Nov 2021 #54
I'm sorry he is ill imavoter Nov 2021 #77
This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m Nov 2021 #55
Tennyson was mostly correct. imavoter Nov 2021 #79
I lost my wife richdj25 Nov 2021 #56
Very sad. I feel for you. Pepsidog Nov 2021 #57
Last year I was were you are now, my deepest condolences at your loss. Soph0571 Nov 2021 #58
I'm on a wait list for a clinic I want to use. imavoter Nov 2021 #80
so very sorry, imavoter Skittles Nov 2021 #59
Thanks Skilltes n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #81
I don't know what to say that hasn't been said already MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #60
Oh this is heartbreaking leighbythesea2 Nov 2021 #61
Omg y'all imavoter Nov 2021 #62
This is so surreal Colorado Liberal Nov 2021 #78
I had to move the bedroom around imavoter Nov 2021 #82
Hey Colorado Liberal... imavoter Nov 2021 #94
This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Nov 2021 #65
This is so sad malaise Nov 2021 #66
It sure as hell is. imavoter Nov 2021 #71
My deepest sympathies. brer cat Nov 2021 #67
Sound advice RayStar Nov 2021 #73
I'm so sorry for your loss and everything you're going through. yardwork Nov 2021 #83
I am so sorry UpInArms Nov 2021 #84
My sincerest sympathies for your loss. appalachiablue Nov 2021 #85
I bow in admiration at how you're holding up DFW Nov 2021 #86
I'm doing the best I can. imavoter Nov 2021 #95
I am so sorry you're going through this devastating Dark n Stormy Knight Nov 2021 #87
Man, gotta admit, I think about this all the time. calimary Nov 2021 #88
I wish we could ease your broken heart. BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2021 #89
My heart is with you Goddessartist Nov 2021 #90
God bless, thanks n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #96
Sorry for your loss. Firestorm49 Nov 2021 #91
I am so sorry for your loss. Hang on to the memories and the love. Ask for help; for anything needed Evolve Dammit Nov 2021 #92
I cannot imagine the stress crim son Nov 2021 #93
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