Bereavement

Old Crank

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39. Sorry for your loss

Sat Nov 6, 2021, 01:18 PM

Nov 2021

Having gone through this I found the first year to be the hardest. Every anniversary of dates that were important to you. It has been 35 years now but I still get the occasional flashback. You will get better.
Ifyou are a church member they may have some counseling available. If not look into it.

All the best.

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My husband died suddenly in August. He was 52. [View all] imavoter Nov 2021 OP

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Nov 2021 #1

Thank you. n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #2

Yw! SheltieLover Nov 2021 #6

He is proud of you. No question. Tetrachloride Nov 2021 #3

Omg if not for my animals imavoter Nov 2021 #63

My deepest sympathy. Cracklin Charlie Nov 2021 #4

My husband died in 2014. I was terrified. Polly Hennessey Nov 2021 #5

The 21 Year Old Son Of A Dear Friend Of Mine Also Died In 2014 COL Mustard Nov 2021 #50

Thanks imavoter Nov 2021 #64

My deepest sympathies. CrispyQ Nov 2021 #7

I feel for you. LakeArenal Nov 2021 #8

I am so sorry you lost him. tblue37 Nov 2021 #9

So sorry for your loss. TigressDem Nov 2021 #10

Thank you, that was very helpful for me. LittleGirl Nov 2021 #40

You are so welcome. Just passing on things others taught me. TigressDem Nov 2021 #97

My sympathy for you and May you find bronxiteforever Nov 2021 #11

"Don't ask me how both are true." 3catwoman3 Nov 2021 #12

So sorry about your brother. imavoter Nov 2021 #68

Peace and strength to you. kairos12 Nov 2021 #13

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I'm 49 with a probate attny imavoter Nov 2021 #69

My deepest sympathy Marthe48 Nov 2021 #15

thank you. imavoter Nov 2021 #70

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May he rest peacefully forever in your heart........nt Heartstrings Nov 2021 #17

May you find peace. Magoo48 Nov 2021 #18

I am so sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2021 #19

Hugs to you, 2Gingersnaps Nov 2021 #20

So sorry for your loss. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Greybnk48 Nov 2021 #21

Thank you for that. imavoter Nov 2021 #72

I very sorry for your loss. rsdsharp Nov 2021 #22

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Been there and done that and AndyS Nov 2021 #23

I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2021 #24

I am so sorry. I know your pain. Farmer-Rick Nov 2021 #25

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I'm very sorry to hear the news. NurseJackie Nov 2021 #27

This might help. multigraincracker Nov 2021 #28

My best option is the local imavoter Nov 2021 #74

Heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss. LoisB Nov 2021 #29

I am so very sorry. Tikki Nov 2021 #30

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a terrible thing to lose a spouse. PatrickforB Nov 2021 #31

Condolences,imavoter gademocrat7 Nov 2021 #32

I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Nov 2021 #33

I am so sorry. murielm99 Nov 2021 #34

thank you. n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #75

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I miss him so bad. Ways Nov 2021 #36

Our deepest sympathies... Peacetrain Nov 2021 #37

Oh, imavoter, I'm so sorry. momta Nov 2021 #38

Sorry for your loss Old Crank Nov 2021 #39

What a moving expression of your heart... we are feeling you. JudyM Nov 2021 #41

understood every - single - word. stopdiggin Nov 2021 #42

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your memories of your livetohike Nov 2021 #43

Honor him with peace and happiness. The Jungle 1 Nov 2021 #44

I'm so sorry Bettie Nov 2021 #45

Condolences, imavoter sarge43 Nov 2021 #46

I'm so sorry cate94 Nov 2021 #47

I'm sure he's proud of you wryter2000 Nov 2021 #48

I am so sorry KT2000 Nov 2021 #49

My wife died unexpectedly last November Colorado Liberal Nov 2021 #51

thank you so much imavoter Nov 2021 #76

My heartfelt condolences. Solly Mack Nov 2021 #52

So very sorry for your loss. Please know that your DU family is holding you and yours in niyad Nov 2021 #53

no words really... markie Nov 2021 #54

I'm sorry he is ill imavoter Nov 2021 #77

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Tennyson was mostly correct. imavoter Nov 2021 #79

I lost my wife richdj25 Nov 2021 #56

Very sad. I feel for you. Pepsidog Nov 2021 #57

Last year I was were you are now, my deepest condolences at your loss. Soph0571 Nov 2021 #58

I'm on a wait list for a clinic I want to use. imavoter Nov 2021 #80

so very sorry, imavoter Skittles Nov 2021 #59

Thanks Skilltes n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #81

I don't know what to say that hasn't been said already MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #60

Oh this is heartbreaking leighbythesea2 Nov 2021 #61

Omg y'all imavoter Nov 2021 #62

This is so surreal Colorado Liberal Nov 2021 #78

I had to move the bedroom around imavoter Nov 2021 #82

Hey Colorado Liberal... imavoter Nov 2021 #94

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This is so sad malaise Nov 2021 #66

It sure as hell is. imavoter Nov 2021 #71

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Sound advice RayStar Nov 2021 #73

I'm so sorry for your loss and everything you're going through. yardwork Nov 2021 #83

I am so sorry UpInArms Nov 2021 #84

My sincerest sympathies for your loss. appalachiablue Nov 2021 #85

I bow in admiration at how you're holding up DFW Nov 2021 #86

I'm doing the best I can. imavoter Nov 2021 #95

I am so sorry you're going through this devastating Dark n Stormy Knight Nov 2021 #87

Man, gotta admit, I think about this all the time. calimary Nov 2021 #88

I wish we could ease your broken heart. BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2021 #89

My heart is with you Goddessartist Nov 2021 #90

God bless, thanks n/t imavoter Nov 2021 #96

Sorry for your loss. Firestorm49 Nov 2021 #91

I am so sorry for your loss. Hang on to the memories and the love. Ask for help; for anything needed Evolve Dammit Nov 2021 #92

I cannot imagine the stress crim son Nov 2021 #93