Bereavement

lostnfound

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55. Our hearts are not initially big enough to hold our beloved ones fully in our mourning

Mon Jan 31, 2022, 08:17 PM

Jan 2022

That is why they break open.
Love like gold fills in all the broken pieces, and hearts become like kintsukuroi, that which was once broken but has become more more beautiful for having been broken.

“Kintsugi is the art of repairing broken pottery with gold, silver, or platinum and celebrating the broken places.”

Wherever it hurts the most, these are exactly the most beautiful, precious places. When my mom died, I learned this lesson. The pain of your grief is a tribute to her, and grief is a kind of gratitude for having been blessed to have her in your life.

Peace.

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The strangest and most beautiful thing happened today at mom's funneral. [View all] sheshe2 Jan 2022 OP

How marvelous! Your beloved mom was able to send you a sign 💫 😇 MLAA Jan 2022 #1

I really think she did. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #7

Wow! My wonderful husband and is 25 years older than I am so I've been MLAA Jan 2022 #8

I think he will, MLAA. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #10

Weird, my hall light just went on by itself. That has never happened before. MLAA Jan 2022 #17

Possibly. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #18

Thanx for sharing your story. Botany Jan 2022 #2

(((((She))))) FalloutShelter Jan 2022 #3

About a month homegirl Jan 2022 #41

That is such a gift. FalloutShelter Jan 2022 #47

Sheesh - I heard my dad's voice, announcing himself like his answering machine message did. calimary Feb 2022 #87

That's so Sweet and Peaceful, she.. Cha Jan 2022 #4

You have been such a good friend to me. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #12

💙Aww.. as have you Cha Jan 2022 #21

A beautiful tribute to your mom. mia Jan 2022 #5

Peace. Totally Tunsie Jan 2022 #6

That is beautiful. Be well. Scrivener7 Jan 2022 #9

What a wonderful sign.. luvs2sing Jan 2022 #11

I got chills reading your post kimbutgar Jan 2022 #13

Good to know you had the signs too, Kim. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #23

Yes! I had that same feeling when my mother passed away. woodsprite Jan 2022 #38

+1 kimbutgar Jan 2022 #51

That sort of thing happened to me too, and I'm an atheist. BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #14

How comforting that you little loved one was being cared for by your Dad. 💗 MLAA Jan 2022 #22

Yes, so much so that I found myself crying "happy" tears. BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #27

What was your little one's name? MLAA Jan 2022 #36

Spike... BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #39

That is funny a 7 pound Spike! Like a Great Dane named Tiny. 😊 MLAA Jan 2022 #42

that's a good name for it NJCher Jan 2022 #43

I've heard "golden tears." soldierant Jan 2022 #60

BP, nothing crazy about any of this. I related downthread about my mom. I have niyad Jan 2022 #61

It IS very comforting. BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #63

How beautiful! I would definitely take that as a sign from your mom! 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2022 #15

There will be signs. When my mother died, I felt the most loving, universal hug japple Jan 2022 #16

blessings kanda Jan 2022 #19

I am sorry for your losses, Kanda. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #79

I am glad she sent a sign to you. If you believe, you will see and hear. LoisB Jan 2022 #20

That's a beautiful and peaceful experience. brer cat Jan 2022 #24

{{{{She}}}} Hekate Jan 2022 #25

So glad your Mom sent you a sign, She! SheltieLover Jan 2022 #26

May you find peace in the loving memories of your mother FakeNoose Jan 2022 #28

💐❤️💐❤️💐 Tumbulu Jan 2022 #29

staying open is the key NJCher Jan 2022 #45

❤️ Tumbulu Feb 2022 #70

Yes, there are signs bucolic_frolic Jan 2022 #30

Go In Peace IA8IT Jan 2022 #31

That's a wonderful story. My father-in-law was a prankster. rsdsharp Jan 2022 #32

As a non-believer myself, I understand your experience as I felt something similar when my mom died Moostache Jan 2022 #33

there are theories NJCher Jan 2022 #50

That's where I fall too. BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #65

After my dad died appleannie1 Jan 2022 #34

One sales rep. who worked for husband had a photo of his immediate family at the cemetary sprinkleeninow Jan 2022 #35

Spirit can manipulate the physical. I'm happy for you! Karadeniz Jan 2022 #37

That is beautiful and comforting. Love never dies. Tanuki Jan 2022 #40

We love you. ❤️😘 NurseJackie Jan 2022 #44

Love you back, NJ. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #48

Beautiful... CaptainTruth Jan 2022 #46

On the one year anniversary of my son's death BadgerMom Jan 2022 #49

No one should have to bury their child. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #80

What a beautiful sign from your mom, sheshe2! I have tears in highplainsdem Jan 2022 #52

You told me their would be signs. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #62

Once it happens to you, BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #66

here's my story NJCher Jan 2022 #53

That's so cool. BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #67

The day my husband died in 1988, as we were toasting him with a very special bottle of wine OMGWTF Jan 2022 #54

Our hearts are not initially big enough to hold our beloved ones fully in our mourning lostnfound Jan 2022 #55

I'm so glad I saw your post and learned about kintsugi. 3catwoman3 Feb 2022 #90

I think that's a beautiful idea. lostnfound Feb 2022 #91

Love and hugs,she. gademocrat7 Jan 2022 #56

At my dad's graveside service dflprincess Jan 2022 #57

Kids and pets are more open to these experiences BigmanPigman Jan 2022 #68

(((((((((((((she)))))))))))) Thank you so much for sharing your mom's wonderful niyad Jan 2022 #58

Thank you my dear. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #69

Here is an odd experience I have been meaning to share here. 3catwoman3 Jan 2022 #59

Thank you for sharing. Blessings. WheelWalker Jan 2022 #64

I think so too, and I'm not religious, either, but this was a spiritual experience Rhiannon12866 Feb 2022 #71

You will ALWAYS BlueMTexpat Feb 2022 #72

Physics Icanthinkformyself Feb 2022 #73

What a beautiful thread! Thanks for sharing, sheshe2. You inspired so many heartfelt stories BComplex Feb 2022 #74

I am so glad others shared their experiences. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #82

I almost never bookmark threads, sheshe2, but I've bookmarked this one, both for highplainsdem Feb 2022 #75

That is a good idea, highplainsdem. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #83

My condolences pandr32 Feb 2022 #76

I believe you Jilly_in_VA Feb 2022 #77

That is beautiful, Jilly. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #84

I have received strong signs from loved ones who passed. murielm99 Feb 2022 #78

Hugs to you as well, murielm. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #85

Beautiful, and you are most probably right, she was free and wanted you to know. Escurumbele Feb 2022 #81

How blessed you are to have a lovely confirmation your mommy is free & released from a body that The_REAL_Ecumenist Feb 2022 #86

What an amazing experience. greatauntoftriplets Feb 2022 #88

I do and I love you. sheshe2 Feb 2022 #89

Lights blinked the day my Dad passed. Going to Canada Jul 2022 #92

The day MrsK passed kozar Jul 2022 #93

Thank you, Koz. sheshe2 Jul 2022 #94