Bereavement

The Jungle 1

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108. Hardest thing I ever did was bury my brother.

Mon Aug 1, 2022, 02:33 PM

Aug 2022

A deeply disturbing time in my life. It was over 30 years ago and my keyboard is getting wet.
Now, I can recognize the event made me a better person. I have a deeper humanity. So my brother gave me that gift
The part I still can't get over is that I tried to get him help and no one would listen. That will never go away and there is no point discussing it.
You are correct giving to others helps. Do as much as you can.

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grieving a suicide death of my son [View all] equite Jul 2022 OP

My condolences for your loss. TexasTowelie Jul 2022 #1

So sorry, but channeling your efforts in this way would be fantastic for so many reasons! Eliot Rosewater Jul 2022 #2

I sm so sorry for your loss. It is a worthy cause to put your focus on. I hope it helps you. onecaliberal Jul 2022 #3

I am so very sorry. Laffy Kat Jul 2022 #4

So Very Sorry. 😢 vanlassie Jul 2022 #5

I'm so very sorry for your loss cate94 Jul 2022 #6

Oh God vercetti2021 Jul 2022 #7

I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Jul 2022 #8

So sorry for your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Jul 2022 #9

Perhaps think of Jamie Raskin leftieNanner Jul 2022 #10

thank you equite Jul 2022 #20

MSNBC did a documentary on Raskin and his work in the aftermath of his son's death. femmedem Jul 2022 #48

Jamie Raskin came to mind immediately. ariadne0614 Jul 2022 #34

Jamie was also my first thought. I think the committee has helped him deal with his son's death Frustratedlady Jul 2022 #83

I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2022 #11

I'm so very sorry. Bipolar here and suicide has happened in my family as well. GPV Jul 2022 #12

I am so sorry, equite. brer cat Jul 2022 #13

I'm so sorry bucolic_frolic Jul 2022 #14

Equite, I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. choie Jul 2022 #15

That was a wonderful response to this post! BigmanPigman Jul 2022 #63

Thank you so much, Bigman choie Jul 2022 #78

Please accept my condolences for a profound loss. MontanaMama Jul 2022 #16

I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my sister to suicide in 2017. Find a grief counseling group if sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #17

kindness equite Jul 2022 #18

My deepest sympathy to you. My stepdaughter has an autistic son. He won't take all his meds, Karadeniz Jul 2022 #19

holding you in the light. thanks for sharing and keep in touch n/t KatK Jul 2022 #21

I am so sorry Bettie Jul 2022 #22

I'm very sorry for your loss. Mousetoescamper Jul 2022 #23

I am so sorry, equite. badhair77 Jul 2022 #24

I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. dixiechiken1 Jul 2022 #25

There is no loss like this. Please know, you are not alone. TygrBright Jul 2022 #26

Great words of wisdom. grantcart Jul 2022 #52

Suicide Survivor groups are immensely helpful! yellowdogintexas Jul 2022 #65

In my experience MuseRider Jul 2022 #27

so sorry to hear about your loss - bluboid Jul 2022 #28

I have no words to add to all those postings above. Just know that this is a safe place for you alwaysinasnit Jul 2022 #29

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Jul 2022 #30

Deepest sympathies on the loss of your son FakeNoose Jul 2022 #31

I wish I could hold you.... duhneece Jul 2022 #32

I can't imagine your agony and grief. So sorry. 70sEraVet Jul 2022 #33

I am so so sorry for your great loss. irisblue Jul 2022 #35

Thank you for being expressive. elleng Jul 2022 #36

I am so sorry for you loss. I wish I had words. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #37

I'm so sorry you lost your son, especially so tragically. Please highplainsdem Jul 2022 #38

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. chowder66 Jul 2022 #39

You picked the right place to post. Many many wonderful people here to listen and talk to you. housecat Jul 2022 #40

I'm so sorry for your loss.. mountain grammy Jul 2022 #41

Know that things will get better. Ligyron Jul 2022 #42

words never seem enough MissKat Jul 2022 #43

So sorry to hear about your son. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ thank you for sharing and know that you are loved a kennedy Jul 2022 #44

I'm so very sorry, Equite. femmedem Jul 2022 #45

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Jul 2022 #46

So very sorry for the tragic loss of your son, Equite! summer_in_TX Jul 2022 #47

My Condolences. GB_RN Jul 2022 #49

I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter is bi-polar, so we have come so close to losing her. mommymarine2003 Jul 2022 #50

Concentrate on those grandkids. NoMoreRepugs Jul 2022 #51

It would honor your son's memory for you to fight for a better world jmbar2 Jul 2022 #53

Sincere condolences Alice Kramden Jul 2022 #54

My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing. 58Sunliner Jul 2022 #55

My best friend was bipolar - hypomania. Jarqui Jul 2022 #56

I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that suicide prevention fierywoman Jul 2022 #57

So sorry mdelaguna Jul 2022 #58

Some good advice here, for sure. calimary Aug 2022 #107

Oh, Delphinus Jul 2022 #59

So sorry for your loss ybbor Jul 2022 #60

I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jul 2022 #61

Sorry waltp4328 Jul 2022 #62

I am so terribly sorry, just letting you know that you're not alone here Rhiannon12866 Aug 2022 #95

welcome to DU gopiscrap Aug 2022 #115

So sorry IbogaProject Jul 2022 #64

So sorry about your son Tree Lady Jul 2022 #66

So very sorry for your loss. Remember the good. Enoki33 Jul 2022 #67

I'm so sorry for your loss... COL Mustard Jul 2022 #68

I'm so sorry we can do it Jul 2022 #69

So sorry for your loss kimbutgar Jul 2022 #70

for me it was my father in 1981. I actually attended two survivor yellowdogintexas Jul 2022 #71

God bless you, your son , and your family. Joinfortmill Jul 2022 #72

You are in grief and yet you put other members tavernier Jul 2022 #73

Im so sorry. amywalk Jul 2022 #74

Sending my sincere sympathy Duppers Jul 2022 #75

So very sorry. RexLipton Jul 2022 #76

So sorry.I can't imagine the pain you must feeling redstateblues Jul 2022 #77

I'm sorry to hear of your terrible loss, equite. yonder Jul 2022 #79

I hope this helps Victor_c3 Jul 2022 #80

So very sorry for your loss. Sogo Jul 2022 #81

I am so sorry. 💔 AmBlue Jul 2022 #82

We have a lot in common. Sending you love and aloha and a prayer for easing your stress and pain. mahina Jul 2022 #84

My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your son virgdem Jul 2022 #85

I lost my son to suicide 1/27/2022--he was 25 crimycarny Jul 2022 #86

I'm so very sorry mzmolly Jul 2022 #87

I am so sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2022 #88

I'm so sorry wendyb-NC Jul 2022 #89

I'm so sorry for your loss MindHowYouGo Jul 2022 #90

Alliance of Hope forum crimycarny Jul 2022 #91

OMG... I am so with you... CaptainTruth Jul 2022 #92

So sorry. CottonBear Jul 2022 #93

I am so, so sorry for your loss and pain... Trueblue Texan Aug 2022 #94

I read your post this AM and just now I read a post I thought you BigmanPigman Aug 2022 #96

a terrible loss MFM008 Aug 2022 #97

So sorry 💔 .... peacebuzzard Aug 2022 #98

I am so sorry. barbtries Aug 2022 #99

So very sorry for your loss, equite. gademocrat7 Aug 2022 #100

You will begin to gain strength through your grief randr Aug 2022 #101

I am so terribly sorry cydney_wong Aug 2022 #102

I'm so very sorry G2theD Aug 2022 #103

My deepest condolences to you. Nt spooky3 Aug 2022 #104

I am so sorry for your loss and pain pandr32 Aug 2022 #105

"This should be normal"? wryter2000 Aug 2022 #106

Hardest thing I ever did was bury my brother. The Jungle 1 Aug 2022 #108

I'm so sorry. n/t G2theD Aug 2022 #109

(((hugs))) samnsara Aug 2022 #110

My condolences for your loss. sop Aug 2022 #111

..... DashOneBravo Aug 2022 #112

I know parents of suicides Marthe48 Aug 2022 #113

Such a sad reason for a first post here. 3catwoman3 Aug 2022 #114

I don't have any good advice except... imavoter Aug 2022 #116