Bereavement

barbtries

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35. markie,

Fri Jan 27, 2023, 01:38 PM

Jan 2023

you've had an avalanche! In grief counseling we were told that you can only grieve one person at a time. You are dealing with complicated grief. Reach out any time.

I have had this time. Tragedy has struck my family during the intervening years but so far we are all alive. It almost feels like a luxury even as I must say that the anniversary last 01Aug was the one I hated the most (the day I'd been without her for as long as I had her).

But for you and your cascading events, it must be so hard. I wish you all the best. Take care of you.

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Grief spasms. [View all] barbtries Jan 2023 OP

My heart hurts for you Barbtries. Duncanpup Jan 2023 #1

ditto Duncanpup. barbtries Jan 2023 #2

I am so sorry for your loss and the grief that never ends. LiberalLoner Jan 2023 #3

I love that quote. barbtries Jan 2023 #4

❤️🙏 LiberalLoner Jan 2023 #6

You are right---those who have not lost a child can't understand the profound grief and sadness Atticus Jan 2023 #5

absolutely Atticus. barbtries Jan 2023 #7

I'm sorry, Barbtries Bayard Jan 2023 #8

that is so, so sad. barbtries Jan 2023 #10

I was discussing this very issue with my therapist, last week Siwsan Jan 2023 #9

I see Grief as kind of a being. barbtries Jan 2023 #12

Sending you a hug Wild blueberry Jan 2023 #11

thank you Wild blueberry barbtries Jan 2023 #13

Sending you loving thoughts and hugs. MLAA Jan 2023 #14

Thank you MLAA! barbtries Jan 2023 #15

You are right Butterflylady Jan 2023 #16

oh Butterflylady. barbtries Jan 2023 #19

Hugs back mgardener Jan 2023 #17

i wish you weren't. barbtries Jan 2023 #20

❤️ littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #18

thank you littlemisssmartypants barbtries Jan 2023 #21

Thank You, barb! Yes, ma'am. That's what I was told anyway. littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #26

Breathe Deep mizogan Jan 2023 #22

good advice. barbtries Jan 2023 #24

Whenever you share what the loss of Bekah has been like for you MontanaMama Jan 2023 #23

thank you MontanaMama. barbtries Jan 2023 #25

oh barbtries, you must miss her so much! CTyankee Jan 2023 #27

yes. I want her back. barbtries Jan 2023 #29

There is a good thing and Daisy would have loved it! I have a grandchild born and named Dante and CTyankee Jan 2023 #34

the way I look at it, barbtries Jan 2023 #36

at her service her brother (my exhusband) said "Daisy always said I was the smart one in the family CTyankee Jan 2023 #37

lol barbtries Jan 2023 #38

He was actually surprised when he was served divorce papers. He said that was "cold." CTyankee Jan 2023 #39

well, you know, he's the smart one. barbtries Jan 2023 #40

Yeah, well this "smart one" divorced his lying ass...his girl friend ended up paying for his kids CTyankee Jan 2023 #41

Sending love and strength, Barbtries. momta Jan 2023 #28

Thank you momta. barbtries Jan 2023 #30

I too have lost a beloved daughter. SheltieLover Jan 2023 #31

SheltieLover barbtries Jan 2023 #32

I don't think there is a why, at least not one that makes any sense. 3catwoman3 Feb 2023 #44

I don't think there's a why. barbtries Feb 2023 #45

I have read all posts. My heart aches for all that have suffered loss. sprinkleeninow Feb 2023 #46

really no words markie Jan 2023 #33

markie, barbtries Jan 2023 #35

my sympathy to you Skittles Jan 2023 #42

Thank you. barbtries Jan 2023 #43