Bereavement

Marie Marie

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12. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just

Thu Mar 19, 2026, 05:19 PM

Mar 2026

begins to lessen over time. But that happens after the initial shock of grief and depression and you are probably solidly in that phase. Counseling might help and you are always welcome to come share with us. We care,,,

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I thought it would get better by now. Husband died 2-6 and I still can't sleep and must force [View all] Ziggysmom Mar 2026 OP

(((((Hugs)))) applegrove Mar 2026 #1

Hugs back at you! Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #22

Wishing you peace for your broken heart 💔 Chat wit us..you may be by yourself but you're not alone 🌺 Deuxcents Mar 2026 #2

Thank you, wishing for peace for the world. Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #24

I hope it gets easier for you soon. There is no time frame for grief. LoisB Mar 2026 #3

I am learning a lot from this forum. Was feeling really low today, but now I Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #25

I am sorry. I am most certainly no expert and my professional training is not in that area but hlthe2b Mar 2026 #4

This sounds like it would be very helpful. Joinfortmill Mar 2026 #9

Thank you for sharing. I'm in Wisconsin waiting for the weather to cooperate so I can get out more. Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #30

If you are physically up to it, cross country skiing on public golf courses in winter is another hlthe2b Mar 2026 #32

Sunlight on the eyes IbogaProject Mar 20 #74

When my partner died back in 2011... pat_k Mar 20 #82

I remember Senator... I somehow missed his inclusion in the "Memoriam" page for 2011 so hlthe2b Mar 20 #84

Understandable blm Mar 2026 #5

Contact your local hospice for bereavement counseling SheltieLover Mar 2026 #6

I joined a hospice group when my dad died Tree Lady Mar 2026 #28

Yes, groups are incredibly powerful! SheltieLover Mar 2026 #39

It's still very, very early. And grief is very different than depression. I know it's really Scrivener7 Mar 2026 #7

Prayed for you. Grief is painful. Joinfortmill Mar 2026 #8

Buy a marble cover composition book and journal it out bucolic_frolic Mar 2026 #10

Thank you. My daughter has polycystic kidney disease and Dr. Bergs keto diet really helps Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #36

I lost my son a little over 4 years ago crimycarny Mar 2026 #11

Those two words said it all. GRIEF ILLITERATE. We get three whole days of bereavement leave Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #41

I swear if I heard "you're so strong" one more time crimycarny Mar 2026 #59

One of my friends lost a child to suicide Marthe48 Mar 20 #71

Second the motion EuterpeThelo Mar 20 #69

Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just Marie Marie Mar 2026 #12

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. Diamond_Dog Mar 2026 #13

It's too soon Lulu KC Mar 2026 #14

Ziggysmom... dlilafae Mar 2026 #15

When my fiance died suddenly in his early 30s, I walked the same trail every day for a year. femmedem Mar 2026 #16

Grieve is a journey. traveler50 Mar 2026 #17

It is difficult to move on. A lttle over a month is pretty fast. Fla Dem Mar 2026 #18

I am so terribly sorry. Trueblue Texan Mar 2026 #19

DU Hug!!! Ponietz Mar 2026 #20

I can't even imagine how it feels Tesha Mar 2026 #21

I almost completely stopped eating for 3 years cpamomfromtexas Mar 2026 #23

Grief is a very personal process BigmanPigman Mar 2026 #26

Good thoughts and advice. yellow dahlia Mar 2026 #37

❤️ underpants Mar 2026 #27

Its only been about 6 weeks BonnieJW Mar 2026 #29

Sending a virtual hug Tree Lady Mar 2026 #31

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 Mar 2026 #33

Everything's harder in this environment. yellow dahlia Mar 2026 #34

Hey Ziggysmom! Once again I realize just how VALUABLE this place is. calimary Mar 2026 #35

I'd so sorry for your loss kimbutgar Mar 2026 #38

"" AllaN01Bear Mar 2026 #40

THANK YOU EVERYONE! Everyone will experience grief in their lifetime. It should not be Ziggysmom Mar 2026 #42

hitthe2b is right, go outside Figarosmom Mar 2026 #43

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope Mar 2026 #44

Huggggggs, my friend and please be kind and gentle and loving niyad Mar 2026 #45

Oh my dear Ziggysmom, My heart hurts for you as you are inching your way through this journey that was suddenly thrust KitFox Mar 2026 #46

My deepest condolences to you. I share Hassler Mar 2026 #47

I lost my wife of 40 years three years ago. kairos12 Mar 2026 #48

I'm sorry you are going through this Danmel Mar 2026 #49

I am sorry for what you are gooing through and hope that you find some solace with it all soon. marked50 Mar 2026 #50

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom... Bayard Mar 2026 #51

It took me 7 years to feel better synni Mar 2026 #52

Dear Ziggysmom, here is what helped me when my beloved died in October. MLAA Mar 2026 #53

.... chowder66 Mar 2026 #54

you're being too hard on yourself Skittles Mar 2026 #55

I am so sorry. BlueKota Mar 2026 #56

Two of the very best ways to deal with grief for me, JMCKUSICK Mar 2026 #57

This community is here for you. Moostache Mar 2026 #58

{{ Hugs }} EKR's books helped me understand the physical component of grief GreatGazoo Mar 2026 #60

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. highplainsdem Mar 2026 #61

That's not that long malaise Mar 2026 #62

Hugs my friend. Dunc Mar 20 #63

lost my hubby almost two years ago. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 20 #64

it is only a month. give it time. rampartd Mar 20 #65

Last night I was watching a documentary about Jane Austen mnhtnbb Mar 20 #66

I hope you find some peace and comfort JoseBalow Mar 20 #67

Oh, Ziggysmom EuterpeThelo Mar 20 #68

Sending you love gademocrat7 Mar 20 #70

My husband died in 2017 Marthe48 Mar 20 #72

My wife died 9/17/25 TexLaProgressive Mar 20 #73

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you love in a difficult time. 58Sunliner Mar 20 #75

It will get better spinbaby Mar 20 #76

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I am concerned over your struggle dealing with that loss. ... marble falls Mar 20 #77

One foot in front of the other foot. The pain is real no doubt but just "doing things" Will help. Botany Mar 20 #78

I am so sorry for your loss. It took me over 4 years to feel "normal" again after my husbands death. maptap22 Mar 20 #79

There is no timeline for grief dlk Mar 20 #80

It will be nine years next month, and I still get tears in my eyes when a certain song comes on tavernier Mar 20 #81

Been there, done that and a word of caution. Momma Mar 20 #83

Sending a big hug Wild blueberry Mar 20 #85