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Loners

dixiegrrrrl

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19. For along time it was hard for me to get as much space as I needed.

Reply to Alduin (Reply #18)

Wed Sep 19, 2012, 12:26 PM

Sep 2012

Esp. in relationships when I was younger, since the societal "norm" was the people "should" want to be together a LOT.
No small wonder I felt stressed in relationships and not stressed when I was living alone.
Fortunately, with age comes wisdom.

Sounds like you and she both know which type you are and how to get your needs met.

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How do you manage to get enough "alone time" in a relationship? [View all] dixiegrrrrl Mar 2012 OP

Great question. cbayer Mar 2012 #1

I think we have kinda been focusing on "loners" more dixiegrrrrl Mar 2012 #2

My story is essentially the same as you. cbayer Mar 2012 #3

Sounds great. dixiegrrrrl Mar 2012 #4

Things I miss cbayer Mar 2012 #5

Different Sleep Cycles AndyTiedye Aug 2012 #6

I understand that. dixiegrrrrl Aug 2012 #7

39 Years for Us AndyTiedye Aug 2012 #8

Easy. We live in two different places. no_hypocrisy Sep 2012 #9

My husband and I lived in different houses for 13 years. MadrasT Sep 2012 #10

"was great".....hmm..I am curious now dixiegrrrrl Sep 2012 #11

Life circumstances caused him to choose to move into my house. MadrasT Sep 2012 #13

One better: my parents for the last 2 decades of their marriage no_hypocrisy Sep 2012 #12

Sounds pretty good to me. MadrasT Sep 2012 #14

You have bragging rights for an "enduring" marriage with no divorce too. no_hypocrisy Sep 2012 #15

Mr. dixie has a friend with a similar, 20 + year marriage. dixiegrrrrl Sep 2012 #16

We too. FLyellowdog Sep 2012 #17

Sounds like y'all made the best of it. MadrasT Sep 2012 #22

I'm an introvert and my girlfriend is an extrovert. Alduin Sep 2012 #18

For along time it was hard for me to get as much space as I needed. dixiegrrrrl Sep 2012 #19

Yeah. Alduin Sep 2012 #20

It is SO hard for people to understand an introvert's needs, isn't it? dixiegrrrrl Sep 2012 #21