Loners

dixiegrrrrl

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74. Being comfortable with it is SO key

Fri Jul 5, 2013, 11:39 AM

Jul 2013

I used to hear things like " you'll die an old maid" and worse.
In my 50's I met another loner, and we figured out how to live together in a way that meets both our needs for alone time and for together time.
So far, 15 years later, it has worked out just fine.

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Anyone here enjoy being " a loner"???? [View all] dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 OP

Yes, except I'm not particularly fond of pets either. NYC_SKP Jan 2012 #1

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Looks like you posted in the right group! dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #3

so glad to find you lol scatalogical Jan 2012 #18

You just did. dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #20

Love my solitude Joe Shlabotnik Jan 2012 #4

I did not realize until a few years ago how much I needed solitude. dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #5

I love being a loner. I just wish I was allowed to be alone more. Nay Jan 2012 #6

You may have put your finger on something.. dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #8

I love being alone Sisaruus Jan 2012 #7

Absolutely catchnrelease Jan 2012 #9

yep yep stuntcat Jan 2012 #10

Yes! BigDemVoter Jan 2012 #11

I love my dog scatalogical Jan 2012 #17

Have been a loner......... Scottybeamer70 Jan 2012 #12

Does DU help with the lonely at all? dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #13

That's about where I am MadrasT Jan 2012 #14

Us Introverts get a lot of bad press dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #15

Yep. MadrasT Jan 2012 #24

Actually I spent a lot of time wondering what was wrong with OTHER people IrishAyes Jul 2013 #93

re: bad press Hula Popper Jul 2013 #91

That IS good to hear, isn't it? dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #92

DU... Scottybeamer70 Jan 2012 #16

some folk think Im strange scatalogical Jan 2012 #19

You put it better than I did.."finding people I can relate to" dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #21

Being around people absolutely terrifies me theAntiRand Jan 2012 #22

Yep, I know exactly what you mean. Also, when I look at some of the RKP5637 Jan 2012 #27

I don't know if I'm a loaner or not, but I've always been on the RKP5637 Jan 2012 #23

I understand exactly what you mean. dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #25

The observer role, yes, I do that quite often. What always gets to RKP5637 Jan 2012 #26

Quite Comfortable with solitude, and don't feel 'alone' marginlized Jan 2012 #28

Yes, I'm an introvert soccer1 Jan 2012 #29

"Introvert" used to be considered a mental illness! dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #30

Our society has come a long way! soccer1 Jan 2012 #31

Yes to all the above. stevedeshazer Jan 2012 #32

Mr. D has a friend who is married and lives in another state than his wife does! dixiegrrrrl Jan 2012 #33

Always the loner. VernaRose Jan 2012 #34

I've never known a minute of being lonely. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #35

I understand. dixiegrrrrl Feb 2012 #36

You hit the nail on the head. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #37

Liar, Good luck with that! Tripod Feb 2012 #39

Preferring solitude doesn't necessarily make me antisocial. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #41

Good point, sorry. n/t. Tripod Feb 2012 #43

It's OK. no_hypocrisy Feb 2012 #44

Thank youl Tripod Feb 2012 #45

If any of you are truely loners... Tripod Feb 2012 #38

You need to read the SOP for this group. dixiegrrrrl Feb 2012 #40

That joke is so old it's a cliche. Especially here. nt bemildred Feb 2012 #42

DU is political and democratic...and... fadedrose Apr 2012 #52

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Yeah bikebloke Feb 2012 #46

I do. LWolf Mar 2012 #47

Agreed. dixiegrrrrl Mar 2012 #48

That's what many just don't get. nt LWolf Mar 2012 #49

I like talking to people (some of them anyway) on the computer.... fadedrose Apr 2012 #50

Wouldn't it be wonderful if people had that? dixiegrrrrl Apr 2012 #51

That is what I like as well - TBF Jun 2012 #67

I have a saying Skittles Jun 2012 #54

And yet, the Mental Health manual calls it a problem dixiegrrrrl Jun 2012 #55

oh I hear you, absolutely Skittles Jun 2012 #56

I don't hate people... Whisp Jul 2012 #69

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yes, I do! Whisp Jun 2012 #66

I used to for much of my life Blue_Tires Jul 2012 #68

Loners north1085 Jun 2013 #70

welcome to DU! Life gets much better after high school TeamPooka Jun 2013 #71

Welcome to DU my friend! hrmjustin Jun 2013 #72

Yes to all of the above. silverweb Jul 2013 #73

Being comfortable with it is SO key dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #74

I'm glad that worked out for you. silverweb Jul 2013 #75

Mr. Dixie has a long time friend who lives a STATE away from his wife. dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #77

Now that's creative. silverweb Jul 2013 #78

Don't have any friends where I live. Manifestor_of_Light Jul 2013 #76

yes ConcernedCanuk Jul 2013 #79

This message was self-deleted by its author dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #80

Trying a reply again... dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #81

"end of road bliss" ConcernedCanuk Jul 2013 #82

I may propsoe to you........ dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #83

small problem ConcernedCanuk Jul 2013 #84

Another small problem....... dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #85

LOL! - "I don't do snow." ConcernedCanuk Jul 2013 #86

Hey there! shanti Jul 2013 #88

Absoutely! ConcernedCanuk Jul 2013 #89

Why yes, yes I do... shanti Jul 2013 #87

We have similarities... dixiegrrrrl Jul 2013 #90

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Being with people is a forced act, a script that I have to follow but RegexReader Jul 2016 #95

If you have the ability to plan for retirement dixiegrrrrl Jul 2016 #96