Loners

extroverts never quite believe that we really need alone time to recharge. They panic when their cell phone batteries run down or there's a power failure and they can't get online or there is nobody around to talk to. We all delight in the peace and quiet of those situations and they really don't get it. They can't get it.

Add to that the media fiction of the "crazy, violent loner" committing all the political assassinations of the past 50 years and you have another reason for mistrust.

While it's annoying to have to sneak in and out of one's own vacation spot, that might be the best policy concerning Tom, letting him know you're in town for the weekend on the weekend you're actually preparing to leave.

The neighbors will be a little tougher but you don't owe them anything but being reasonably quiet while you're there.