History of Feminism

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You'd find that women want sex, and it's just as important to women as it is to men in general. One of the cultural factors holding women back is the fear of pregnancy, or the fear of being treating disrespectfully, or an culturally ingrained inability to tell their partner what feels good. ( there is still an unacceptable rate of women who 'fake' orgasm).
We still live in a world were women are called sluts for having multiple partners, We are called cold or 'lesbians' if we turn down sex from an unwanted partner. How we deal with our sexuality is always judged in a more complicated fashion than a man's is. The same sexual standards simply doesn't hold true for men.

However, I also think you're right about men needing the ability to form close friendships with other men or even women.

But it isn't exclusively a male trait either. There are women who have a hard time forming close attachments, the difference being we have societal permission, even expectations, to form close ties with other women. Men are supposed to be individualists and you're right, it does cause extensive harm, and it can isolate men and cause great loneliness.


I think people-- human beings need to deal with their desires, hetero or Gay or in-between, and move forward or move on. Easy to say, much harder to do.

You know all that talk about the so-called "friend zone"? When I was younger and single, I was hypersensitive to that kind of thing, I could always 'tell'--- but I always felt it as more of a "crush" from a guy friend-- they'd get over it, and we'd be become friends and form other relationships. There wasn't an expectation of sex, fantasy sex maybe on their part but not harmful. Not with a normal Joe, who was a friend. Talking with girlfriends , you'd find about the same thing. A crush, sometimes a devastating one, and then the move on part.