History of Feminism

said further down thread, there are different ways to teach things.

The problem being described here is a problem of personal interaction which is the problem of entitlement. It is the problem of those men - and they are always men - who think they are trying to be helpful and who do not recognize that they are the holders of the very entitlement that creates inequality in their personal interactions with women. When they come into these conversations and demand to be attended to, they are embodying that entitlement.

If, when these demands are made, feminists (male or female) stop the discussion to indulge these men's need for immediate attention, when they indulge these men's entitlement, they are teaching these men that the entitlement is a legitimate thing.

It would be a much better "teaching moment" if, when these demands are made, feminists (male or female) continue their discussion and require the entitled ones to respect the fact that the discussion is not going to be made all about the entitled ones.

The way to teach a child that they cannot always be the center of attention is to require that they not interrupt, and to not attend to their demands when those demands are rude. This behavior, where a man demands that an ongoing conversation stops so his needs can be attended to, is exactly the same as that child's behavior. The same teaching method should be used as is used with the child.

The only effective way to make someone stop being entitled is to stop indulging the entitlement.