History of Feminism

ismnotwasm

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25. I suggest you watch the video again

Thu Jul 24, 2014, 08:23 AM

Jul 2014

She tells a story of a man saying "Hello Ladies" and when ignored, followed it up with "what, you don't want to say hello?" Trivial? Or threatening? How is she to know? Clearly she is speaking of a sexual subtext, and that is "gross'

Now me, part of my background is the street and I'd give a chin nod and say 'sup-- and keep walking. I'm quick with fuck you, fuck off, and what the fuck is a matter with you if I'm harassed in any way.

In the young woman's case it's NOT just "ugly creepy guys" it could a be group of nice looking young men, a single older man, whatever, relative attractiveness of the harasser does NOT predict behavior.

I have to agree with you about the privilege of people perceived as more attractive, which I think is the whole of you're point, because I'm sure you do not condone harassment, and you seem to speak from a place of pain.

Everyone has privilege, it's a matter of what, and how much.

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Do NOT say Hello To me.. [View all] yuiyoshida Jul 2014 OP

I like her message. Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #1

I love her videos yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #2

Why was the F word bleeped? I am not a youtube expert randys1 Jul 2014 #76

She probably self censored yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #91

"Don't you want to say hello to me?" "No! Who the f* are you? I have things to do!" Squinch Jul 2014 #3

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #4

Can't watch now but I'm really looking forward to it. redqueen Jul 2014 #5

Some people seem to feel it yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #6

Oh for Gods sake ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #7

LIKE!! yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #13

Oh good, I'm glad ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #14

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #8

Thanks for posting this here and, giving me the opportunity to post over there Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #9

calif we barely made eye contact. texas is much more open to friendly. seabeyond Jul 2014 #10

yes, even small town females KNOW the difference in HOW something is said ... It all goes back to Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #11

I remember one time a truck turned around when I was walking down the street ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #12

"You have crumbs stuck in the crevices of your body." A-Schwarzenegger Jul 2014 #15

Like that happens only to women ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #16

It's such a human image. A-Schwarzenegger Jul 2014 #18

This young woman has been very priveledged to have been born physically attractive. Flatulo Jul 2014 #17

So you've never seen the comments overweight or unattractive women get? ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #19

very well put ism. i wasnt sure i wanted to take the time to address, cause there were seabeyond Jul 2014 #20

The thing is, just like many of the women here, I have evolved extremely sensitive bullshit Flatulo Jul 2014 #23

I suggest you watch the video again ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #25

I have watched it a few times, and I'm still getting an elitist vibe. Flatulo Jul 2014 #32

how about a simple.... seabeyond Jul 2014 #34

I just want to acknowlge your compassion here. Kali Jul 2014 #53

pain is pain. it does no good to make one less or more. this is hard for so many seabeyond Jul 2014 #68

I was just reading through and it seemed like the guy was almost there Kali Jul 2014 #87

good post.... thank you kali. too bad. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #89

now, with that, i agree with redqueen and squinch. seabeyond Jul 2014 #35

How old are you? redqueen Jul 2014 #57

No. Flatulo Jul 2014 #58

and THIS is why we do not try to put one up against another, steps in between, a balanced scale. seabeyond Jul 2014 #67

A hug from me as well ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #60

Why thank you kindly, I truly appreciate that. Flatulo Jul 2014 #62

And some are "pathologically compelled" to make up bullshit about people redqueen Jul 2014 #63

I don't even know where to begin with you. I find your posts offensive in so many ways that I can't Flatulo Jul 2014 #65

but that would be the point. what redqueen is saying is right on. and you wont even consider what seabeyond Jul 2014 #70

OK, RQ makes the claim that I'm making this thread all about me, but my re telling of my assault Flatulo Jul 2014 #74

your initial post, you dismissed this girl cause of her privileged attractiveness and yes, you made seabeyond Jul 2014 #77

Here's an example of RQ's dishonesty... Flatulo Jul 2014 #79

you know what, any compassion i felt, well... you kinda shat all over that. that is such an absurd seabeyond Jul 2014 #81

She misrepresented my very clear writing to create a negative impression of me. What do you Flatulo Jul 2014 #83

no. she did not misrepresent shit and if anyone created the negative impression seabeyond Jul 2014 #84

you must have been studying Kali Jul 2014 #88

I'd call it the same thing... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #93

I would respond to your points, if only you had made any. But no, you went right to your Flatulo Jul 2014 #66

not true. not true at all. and this is when it is simply enough, walking into the group and being seabeyond Jul 2014 #71

Why would I waste my time debating a poster who lies about what I've written? Flatulo Jul 2014 #75

now i suggest you flat out delete. or i flat out alert.... and you get a hide for falsely calling seabeyond Jul 2014 #78

Alert then.. She's s liar. I've proven it in my last post. The record speaks for itself. Flatulo Jul 2014 #80

Class act... Agschmid Jul 2014 #82

this one is a wow for me. be nice, get kicked in the face. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #86

i guess redqueen was correct all along and you prove that ism and i were suckers. seabeyond Jul 2014 #85

Bull. Shit. 100%. redqueen Jul 2014 #27

I'm not going to even acknowledge your hateful rant. You think you know me, and you condemn me Flatulo Jul 2014 #36

We know you well enough. Your own words give you away. Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #37

Don't even try that. I didn't "shit on you" I tore your ridiculous reply to shreds. redqueen Jul 2014 #40

I hope you have a lovely day. The weather is fine here, and I'm going to go out now Flatulo Jul 2014 #41

LOL, yep. I didn't expect you to address a single point. redqueen Jul 2014 #43

You seem to have already made up your mind about me. Flatulo Jul 2014 #50

Ah! The "Others have it worse so shut up" argument! Though you took your sweet time to get there. Squinch Jul 2014 #31

You're right, none of those things have happened to me. Flatulo Jul 2014 #51

you are right. personally, i live a very... privileged life. and still. though the scale may not seabeyond Jul 2014 #52

The question I have is, how many steps are there between Flatulo Jul 2014 #54

my point is... there are NO steps. because yours feeds into, and hers feeds into yours. seabeyond Jul 2014 #55

Was it acceptable that those bigger kids were allowed to do those things to you simply because you Squinch Jul 2014 #56

point. or... she deserves it cause she is privileged attractive. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #72

none of these things are deserved, it shouldn't matter how one looks. if her looks suddenly changed JI7 Jul 2014 #22

"She may look back fondly at the days when people craved the favor of her attention." redqueen Jul 2014 #29

Sadly there are some who interpret disrespect and subjugation as flattery, seabeyond Jul 2014 #39

People couldn't demonstrate a total lack of empathy any better if they were fucking paid to. redqueen Jul 2014 #45

From Alison yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #21

Thank her for me, if you would be so kind ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #24

I sent her links to the three places yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #49

So cool ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #59

Yes it is yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #64

ah alison.... keep speaking out, the voice of youth. our world needs it so. do not ever stop. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #73

I was assaulted for not acknowledging my cat-caller Evergreen Emerald Jul 2014 #26

Ooh, let me guess how many men in the area called him out for being a misogynist piece of shit... redqueen Jul 2014 #28

Exactly...I was the piece of shi* for not Evergreen Emerald Jul 2014 #30

is this a given role for women, cause it is my life. someone does shit, ... and if i dare react, seabeyond Jul 2014 #42

I think it is about gender Evergreen Emerald Jul 2014 #92

Just wait, the day will come when you will miss having these men Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #33

Italy is awful, especially Rome. My sister visited there and had her ass grabbed dozens of times. Flatulo Jul 2014 #38

italy is worse. more misogynist as a culture and society by a long shot, in many ways. a difference seabeyond Jul 2014 #44

Don't even mention Japan, especially the commuter trains. Worst place in the world for a woman. Flatulo Jul 2014 #46

vending machines on the corner of a street that sell soiled schoolgirl undies to grown men so they seabeyond Jul 2014 #48

How do you think most cops here would react if a woman went up to one and complained redqueen Jul 2014 #47

That's horrible ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #61

I wonder how funny his friends would have thought it was if he'd gotten his ass beaten for Flatulo Jul 2014 #69

Thank you for making this statement. edgineered Jul 2014 #90

Just want to state that the girl in the video is not me. yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #94

Yes. I thought both in text and appearance it was clear you put this video up of seabeyond Jul 2014 #95

yay!! \o/ yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #96

wow! good for you.. AsahinaKimi Jul 2014 #98

I am very proud of my 25 year old daughter - edgineered Jul 2014 #99

It was interesting to learn edgineered Jul 2014 #97