History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: Do NOT say Hello To me.. [View all]Squinch
(53,869 posts)You say that you have vast experience of these things, and then show clearly that not only do you have no experience, you are really rather oblivious to what is being discussed here, and you have absolutely no understanding of it.
You say you don't want to discount anyone's experience as being trivial, and then you discount people's experience as being trivial.
This has nothing to do with beauty. It has to do with the need by some random men on the street to make women feel uncomfortable. Women have no trouble telling the difference, though clearly you are unable to tell the difference. These men do it to pretty women and ugly women. They do it mostly to young women who they think will not fight back. This need of these men comes not from admiration but from a feeling if impotence and anger against women in general. This is a milder version of those same feelings that lead men to assault women. Women know this, because most women have experienced that "middle ground" between the catcall and the assault.
Obviously, you have never had the experience of not responding to a "hello," and consequently been followed and berated, or grabbed and shaken, or screamed at from the moment you pass the man until you walk far enough to be out of his sight.
None of these things is a crime. None are EVER reported. None of these things are uncommon.