History of Feminism

From personal experience, once a relationship has been dissected down to its unsatisfactory bones, and blame has been assigned, there really no way to recover whatever the attraction was in the first place.
My childhood was scarred by verbal and physical abuse from my father. Nothing sexual. When my husband, and then the guy I lived with after the divorce, were quick to exclaim that the only reason I did not want to have sex ALL the time was because of my childhood, and then wait for me to brighten up and say YES! I see where I am wrong! Let's have sex right now!
It certainly is not your temper tantrums and controlling nature that turn me off! - but, sadly for them, I just got out of the relationship.

Whenever someone lists all the faults of the other person, and pretty much says their own faults are caused by the other person - do everyone a favor and get the fuck out.

There is no point in addressing the alcoholism. The guy has made up his mind that he is the wronged person, and both people deserve someone who understands them better and fits with their emotional baggage. The almost clinical dissection of the relationship by this guy creeps me out big time.

You cannot talk someone into loving you. Not really. You can badger, explain at great length, give a power-point explanation or make a Venn diagram of the relationship's problems. But you cannot make someone love you if they do not.