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freshwest

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37. Don't return it, he liked it. Tell them how much money professional chefs make.

Reply to Texasgal (Reply #4)

Sat Dec 27, 2014, 01:13 AM

Dec 2014

Your relative may not be able to see the forest for the trees. I've known chefs personally who make a fortune. And what of the iron Chef, and all the other male cooks people see on television?

Frame it that way. And as far as being hurt, since your intent was to please the child and not her or yourself, explain it that way and I'll bet after they toss the pink box they'll agree that letting him go with what he likes is the real road to success.

Not all men are into cars, yard work or whatever she may see as 'manly.' And work you love isn't really work, it's a career and a pleasure. Make the kid happy, he's the one that will be hurting if a big deal if made of this. Particularly if you take the gift away and invalidate his feelings in a misunderstanding.

It's not like you tried to deck him out as Barbie, if that is what they think. My huge kid got a kick at summer camp when they had the boys wear girl clothes like long dresses and wigs and the girls wore work boots and hard hats.

Of course in the real world, some women do wear work boots and hard hats in the trades.

I wouldn't want Mateo to be hurt by making him feel there is something wrong with him.

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Scolded by my husbands sister [View all] Texasgal Dec 2014 OP

No you are not over-reacting TexasProgresive Dec 2014 #1

I was actually surprised by the scolding. Texasgal Dec 2014 #7

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2014 #53

nah. christmas is hard enough as it is. you did a good and thoughtful job. seabeyond Dec 2014 #2

Yeah. Your right. Texasgal Dec 2014 #4

Hey, order stuff from cooking.com!!! elleng Dec 2014 #11

Don't return it, he liked it. Tell them how much money professional chefs make. freshwest Dec 2014 #37

I wouldn't return it. stage left Dec 2014 #51

and one day he may be a famous chef.... Grey Dec 2014 #3

Right. murielm99 Dec 2014 #30

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2014 #55

no, she is elehhhhna Dec 2014 #5

I'm really not sure. Texasgal Dec 2014 #8

but, doesn't the packaging get thrown away? to the trash, right? never to be seen again? Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2014 #39

How could ann--- Dec 2014 #58

why should our boys be so very fuggin' sensitive to a color? are they really so weak? seabeyond Dec 2014 #60

You can say that; Sweeney Dec 2014 #17

you can suck at it. i cook pretty well & hate to cook. but to discourage a toddler? elehhhhna Dec 2014 #32

Life is full of discouragement. And this is sent to texasgal. Sweeney Dec 2014 #38

dang sweeney, thats beautiful elehhhhna Dec 2014 #44

Like I tell Elena, my eldest granddaughter. Sweeney Dec 2014 #50

No, you are not over-reacting at all, elleng Dec 2014 #6

Thanks Elleng. Texasgal Dec 2014 #9

I understand that you wouldn't have looked at the packaging, elleng Dec 2014 #10

That's actually a great idea! Texasgal Dec 2014 #14

Happy to be of service, Texasgal! elleng Dec 2014 #15

i thought that a very clever idea, also. nt seabeyond Dec 2014 #19

I would bert she's simply reacting irrationally to her own demons. Jackpine Radical Dec 2014 #54

You are not over reacting. onecaliberal Dec 2014 #12

Real possible that he loves to share activities with people who love him. Sweeney Dec 2014 #13

Thank you. Texasgal Dec 2014 #16

Doctor Seuss Sweeney Dec 2014 #18

No! I bought my son "girls toys" as well as "boys toys". Cooking toys. But never weapon toys. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2014 #20

You did NOT over-react--she did! Lifelong Protester Dec 2014 #21

Ask her how "Girly" Gordon Ramsay is. jeff47 Dec 2014 #22

HOW could you be so stupid!? Men don't cook, that's women's work! DRoseDARs Dec 2014 #23

SiL is the babys granxma. the moms in college and said nothing... elehhhhna Dec 2014 #33

I *think* I see the error, but regardless Texasgal isn't wrong. DRoseDARs Dec 2014 #36

Whether you are overreacting or not doesn't matter. What matters is that your upset is not merrily Dec 2014 #24

You're not over-reacting. 840high Dec 2014 #25

Hmmm zentricity Dec 2014 #26

Now that you've said it, I think you're right. onecaliberal Dec 2014 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Hoppy Dec 2014 #27

Your SIL is RUDE. IdaBriggs Dec 2014 #28

I hate so much that society d_r Dec 2014 #31

Your sister in law is an ungrateful, out of touch, narrow-minded person. oldandhappy Dec 2014 #34

That's what got me when I started thinking about it Blue_Adept Dec 2014 #70

You're not overreacting vive la commune Dec 2014 #35

Seems like your SIL's issue. Jeff Murdoch Dec 2014 #40

So her daughter is in college Kalidurga Dec 2014 #41

Benefit to society RosieS57 Dec 2014 #42

You are NOT over-reacting. Your husband's sister is. Triana Dec 2014 #43

It sounds as if... discntnt_irny_srcsm Dec 2014 #45

If the kid mercuryblues Dec 2014 #46

next year buy him a barbie. mopinko Dec 2014 #47

You're bad! CrispyQ Dec 2014 #49

thank you mopinko Dec 2014 #61

You are not over reacting. CrispyQ Dec 2014 #48

This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Dec 2014 #52

Might be good to call or write the manufacturer. Remind them that girls and boys both love to cook. Overseas Dec 2014 #56

this is a good idea too. nt seabeyond Dec 2014 #57

This is more of the issue right here. Indydem Dec 2014 #63

Good points! Overseas Dec 2014 #69

I still cherish the memory of the Betty Crocker baking kit I got as a Christmas gift back in the 50s NBachers Dec 2014 #59

i think back then, it had a picture of little boy and girl using it. amazingly, back then seabeyond Dec 2014 #62

Maybe he will grow up to be an Iron Chef? HockeyMom Dec 2014 #64

No you are not over-reacting rock Dec 2014 #65

Not even remotely over reacting JustAnotherGen Dec 2014 #66

Back in the 1950s, one of my best friends had an EZ Bake Oven Warpy Dec 2014 #67

you want I should kick some SIL ass, Texasgal? Skittles Dec 2014 #68