History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: The plight of the bitter nerd: Why so many awkward, shy guys end up hating feminism (Salon) [View all]DetlefK
(16,543 posts)Two things.
1. Perception and Self-Perception. The sexism in media has subconsciously trained us men to sort the people around us in 3 categories: Men. Hot pieces of ass. Strange blobs that obscure your field of vision.
Become aware of the filter you use in looking at the world.
SPOILER-ALERT: Women are people, too.
2. Saying hello to the world: It's all a matter of probabilities.
- Stack the deck: Get a hobby where you meet people of both genders. Or find a nice bar or club to hang out.
- You can practice social interactions with strangers: Greetings. Compliment. Question.
- How to start flirting with a girl: Greetings. Compliment. Question. (Notice the pattern?)
- How to keep flirting with a girl: Keep her talking. And listen to what she says. Don't even worry about fucking this up, you will fuck up most flirts anyway. It doesn't matter.
- How to score with a girl: "For just $14.99 you can learn all the secrets of seduction..." But seriously, it depends on the situation. It either happens or doesn't.
- What to do in case of fail: Shrug it off, move on. She's not into you? How many women are YOU not into? (Seriously, shrug it off. Noboy will point and laugh at you if she turns you down, because nobody fucking cares.)
- What kind of man women like:
* If she's looking for a short-term relationship, women prefer the "adventurer"-type. (Good-looking, muscles...) If she's looking for a long-term relationship, women prefer the "provider"-type. (Caring, competent, smart, creative...)
* A woman prefers a man who shares her interests. If she's super-conscious about her looks, she wants a man who is super-conscious about his looks. To paraphrase a female Youtube-entertainer: What would you even do all day long if that superficial hot girl were your girl-friend? Have her watch you play videogames? You have nothing in common!