History of Feminism

Brains and personality are more important in my opinion. People have a personality and a sparkle and things to talk about or they don't.
You could have very plain features and be animated and be very attractive. I see lots of people in the city with good regular features but they are not attractive--they are just drones in the corporate machine with no imagination. Their tastes are shaped by the mass media telling them what to pay attention to and they have no individuality. They don't have quirky hobbies or unusual kinds of music they listen to.


Looks, brains and personality all together--my two favorite astrophysicists, Dr. Brian May and Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson. Both very attractive men. Brian May is in a band you might have heard of -- Queen.


I refused to join a sorority in college because it looked like a bunch of dippy girls doing stupid stuff to get the approval of other girls. And I wondered WHY would anybody want to be exactly like someone else???? I never ran around with a pack of girls gossiping like the ones on Sex in the City. I went to a rush party when I was a freshman and some girl came up to me and gushed "You meet the NICEST people around here!!" I decided, "No intelligent life here. No boys. I'm leaving."


And I would have nothing to talk about with a frat boy. Classical music, the hot string quartet that was in town last week performing, latest theories in cosmology, what I'm doing in my biology lab? What I'm doing in chemistry lab? The latest paper by "Vicki" Weisskopf in Scientific American? Nope.


I think the awkward guys blaming feminism are blaming the wrong thing. They need to learn to say hello to girls, ask them questions, and listen, as has already been stated in this thread. There are going to be smart girls out there who have no interest in sports and the jock culture. I refused to play softball in high school P.E. and sat down in left field in 98 degree heat and refused to catch a ball, because I didn't want to hurt my fingers, because I was a musician. The gum-chewing idiot who was the "team captain" threw me out of the game and I said, "GOOD!". I also had six foot tall girls trying to run over me during volleyball to spike it and also bounced basketballs off my head when the teacher wasn't looking. Basketballs are HEAVY. They HURT. The PE teachers, who i thought were from another planet, because they seemed to be awfully masculine for a woman, wouldn't have done anything anyway.


I don't think the adventurer/provider thing is right. Provider isn't necessarily important. A woman wants a guy who shares her interests. And will listen to her and be sympathetic. Science majors who are NOT into sports are a major plus in my opinion. Neil deGrasse Tyson was a wrestler in high school and college, but the adults thought he should be a professional jock because he was big and black. He said that when he was nine years old he went to the Hayden Planetarium (which he now heads) and said "I want to be an astrophysicist" and all the adults ran away because black people were not supposed to be astrophysicists.


My version of that lack of guidance was "you're brilliant, you're smart" but did I get any specialized guidance about going into things I was really good at and that I really loved to do??? Nope, none at all. I got variations on, "Yeah, you're good at that, but it's not practical so you have to major in a natural science." And NOT make easy As. And I'm a white female.

I don't know if Brian May gets any exercise, but he certainly hasn't gotten fat, and he's in his sixties.