History of Feminism

mother earth

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5. Excellent article, TY for posting this. This kind of behavior is not limited to the internet, so I

Wed Feb 4, 2015, 10:12 AM

Feb 2015

will disagree with parts of this, but one thing is for certain. There is a mentality that some feel entitles them to be an asshole, plain and simple, as though the perp has perfected what it is to be "human" and if you are the scapegoat, sucks to be you. I've seen this in the workplace plenty enough. One doesn't have to be fat, skinny or anything really, it's not about the victim, it's the perp's mentality & what they perceive they are getting from their actions.

The big piece missing is that it speaks volumes about the perp, no matter what they think they are gaining by this sociopathic behavior, or if they even feel they are gaining anything. I think it's done for sport more often than not.

I didn’t mean to forgive him, but I did.

This story isn’t prescriptive. It doesn’t mean that anyone is obliged to forgive people who abuse them, or even that I plan on being cordial and compassionate to every teenage boy who tells me I’m too fat to get raped (sorry in advance, boys: I still bite). But, for me, it’s changed the timbre of my online interactions – with, for instance, the guy who responded to my radio story by calling my dad a “faggot”. It’s hard to feel hurt or frightened when you’re flooded with pity. And that, in turn, has made it easier for me to keep talking in the face of a mob roaring for my silence. Keep screaming, trolls. I see you.

Above taken from the conclusion of the article.

Yeah, absolutely, we see you. Like in the movie, The Avatar, good or bad, what you put out into the world tells everyone who you are. But then, one has to be capable of empathy to understand that.

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What happened when I confronted my cruellest troll [View all] ismnotwasm Feb 2015 OP

Trolls have always seemed broken Android3.14 Feb 2015 #1

you are so right about their cry for attention vlyons Feb 2015 #16

I heard a piece on this with the author on public radio a few weeks ago... hlthe2b Feb 2015 #2

Yes, and he's just like one out of thousands ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #4

This: "...it doesn't negate their responsibility for the culture they are fostering." CrispyQ Feb 2015 #18

That was a fantastic read. Thanks! Pacifist Patriot Feb 2015 #3

Excellent article, TY for posting this. This kind of behavior is not limited to the internet, so I mother earth Feb 2015 #5

a good piece on this american life: barbtries Feb 2015 #6

I heard that when it was broadcast a short while back. Skinner Feb 2015 #10

I missed that ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #14

it's good barbtries Feb 2015 #20

Thanks--I think I will ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #23

yes it is! hopemountain Feb 2015 #37

I would find it very difficult davidthegnome Feb 2015 #7

I have a friend ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #13

I'm sorry that happened to your friend. =( nt AverageJoe90 Feb 2015 #42

Thank you AJ90 ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #52

I second Joe's post. That is just awful. nomorenomore08 Feb 2015 #53

K&R deutsey Feb 2015 #8

years ago there were a few trolls on du, who decided to photograph themselves La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2015 #9

+1000 ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #12

Edit: whoops, meant to respond to La Lioness Priyanka. nt F4lconF16 Feb 2015 #21

+1 F4lconF16 Feb 2015 #22

Trolling allows people to act in ways they can't get away with in person. Avalux Feb 2015 #11

Excellent article. lovemydog Feb 2015 #15

I am going to be rereading and pondering this for a while. brer cat Feb 2015 #17

I'm too aggressive ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #35

posted to for later 1StrongBlackMan Feb 2015 #19

Thanks. What a great piece. n/t pnwmom Feb 2015 #24

Exactly right. Mere criticism of misogyny is not censorship. SunSeeker Feb 2015 #25

"How do you deal with a bully without becoming a thug?" Warpy Feb 2015 #26

Wow ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #31

A great piece, thanks for posting! arcane1 Feb 2015 #27

That was heartbreaking to read. Curmudgeoness Feb 2015 #28

Yes we can ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #33

posted to for later. 1StrongBlackMan Feb 2015 #29

Wow. That was fascinating. Going to listen the the TAL show. cui bono Feb 2015 #30

This is great and very powerful Number23 Feb 2015 #32

Oh yeah ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #34

When I was a kid my Father had real live trolls always after him mackerel Feb 2015 #36

K&R DeSwiss Feb 2015 #38

I didn't see that ending coming BainsBane Feb 2015 #39

This thread reminded me of a new reality show that I heard about arikara Feb 2015 #40

Hey- thank you ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #45

There are a few truly nasty people out there, who will go to ANY length, to make others feel like... AverageJoe90 Feb 2015 #41

There are all kinds of trolls out there. JTFrog Feb 2015 #48

What a remarkable piece. Thank you. nt Hekate Feb 2015 #43

"it’s not illegal to reach elbow-deep into someone’s memories ... and twist them and weaponize them" phantom power Feb 2015 #44

And the backlash continues ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #46

I hope he is sincere, and follows through. nt Curmudgeoness Feb 2015 #49

Yeah, me too. AverageJoe90 Feb 2015 #51

I can only hope this would make other "CEO's" do a little self reflection on how this affects their JTFrog Feb 2015 #50

This was on This American Life, two weeks ago... Javaman Feb 2015 #47