History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: A Letter to My Children About Fifty Shades of Grey [View all]3catwoman3
(26,042 posts)Won't be watching the movie. The analysis in the letter from that mom covered some very important points, especially the possessiveness and controlling behaviors.
During my freshman and sophomore years of college, I dated a very possessive young man who wanted to control every aspect of my life. He was actually my high school boyfriend, and I made the mistake of deciding to go to the same college he picked. The possessiveness did not manifest itself until we were away from home. He wasn't physically abusive, but he always thought he knew best, was dismissive of my thoughts and ideas, and always couched his decisions in terms of being concerned for me. He wanted us to get secretly married. Fortunately, I finally wised up and got the hell out, and transferred to another school for my remaining 2 years.
He married one of my roommates, and they divorced a few years later. I often wondered if he treated her the same way, and if that is what lead to the divorce.