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mopinko

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14. second that you get some help for your self.

Reply to Hayduke Bomgarte (Original post)

Mon May 2, 2016, 09:42 AM

May 2016

find the nearest chapter of nami. they have support groups, and should be able to hook you up w a counselor.

i know it feels like you cant change anything, but i assume your house has a front door. is there anyone you could stay w for a while to sort this out? maybe some time alone will help her see what the problem is.
it can be really hard to tell who is the "crazy" one. people in tough spots like yours can get depressed, and it speeds the whole thing up. everything becomes a chicken/egg question.

i can only relate my own experience of finally making the break from a very similar situation. together for 32 years, i just couldnt take another "sorry". tho it took a while to settle the divorce, i have had nothing to cry about for over 2 years now.

and just ftr, the mental health support group is a better place to post this type of thing. i suspect most people who are subscribers are subscribing to both groups, but i dont know.

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Not sure who to ask, or how [View all] Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 OP

I'm not a pro, elleng May 2016 #1

Thanks Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #2

I think you need to connect her to help. I'd start by reviewing this material. MADem May 2016 #3

Thanks Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #4

If she's capable of harming you, or herself, you may find you have to take action. MADem May 2016 #5

She has never gotten physical, but Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #7

Does she have a trusted friend you could ask to bring it up to her? polly7 May 2016 #6

No. Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #8

You're in a terrible position. polly7 May 2016 #9

Soul destroying... Yeah. Apt description. Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #10

I live in Canada and I'm not sure how different things are for you there wrt mental polly7 May 2016 #11

Joint counseling? No. No way. Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #12

Well you are in between the proverbial rock and hard place, and you can't stay there, emotionally. polly7 May 2016 #13

second that you get some help for your self. mopinko May 2016 #14

find the nearest chapter of nami. they have support groups, and should be able to hook you up w a co Hayduke Bomgarte May 2016 #15