Gun Control Reform Activism

NYC_SKP

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2. Needless to say, your dad shouldn't have had any firearms whatsoever.

Thu Mar 28, 2013, 08:46 PM

Mar 2013

I feel your pain with an aging parent, regardless of the pistol problem.

My dad suffered from dementia for several years and died last month, I brought my mom back home from the long term care they were in together after he died.

I hid a lot of things over the years that I didn't want him to lose or screw up, but they had no guns.

Nonetheless, I wouldn't have been surprised if he'd pulled a knife one day on the helpers to whom we was so abusive.

Which is why they went to a home.

In any event, don't let all this make you crazy.

It's not easy, and I hope you have help with it all.

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My 93 year old Alzheimer's father pulled a pistol on his caregiver: [View all] nightscanner59 Mar 2013 OP

I am sorry. Really sorry. (((Hugs))) idwiyo Mar 2013 #1

Needless to say, your dad shouldn't have had any firearms whatsoever. NYC_SKP Mar 2013 #2

mom has Alzheimer's & used to threaten, we hid all knives wordpix Mar 2013 #36

I'm so sorry BainsBane Mar 2013 #3

VERY sorry. elleng Mar 2013 #4

How uniquely American. Mika Mar 2013 #5

I will have to remembeer to bring restraints for showing him the latest Jim Carrey installment nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #6

Oh dear! Oh, oh, oh . . . . (shakes head) I don't know what to say . . . . patrice Mar 2013 #7

Will do. Bringing separate residence for me (travel trailer) or my own sanity would end. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #9

Get rid of the car entirely. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #28

Oh, yes a trade in will be tended to near immediately, and keys of whatever only under my control: nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #50

I agree with those who suggest you contact the Altzheimer's Assn. MADem Mar 2013 #51

Yes, my uncle has suggested that as well, thanx for link nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #53

Contact your local Alzheimer's association- Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #35

Thank you for the resource lead, Toad. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #49

Your comment about local authorities reminded me of another thing Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #70

I am so very sorry--been there, and it is not a good situation. personally, I think your non- niyad Mar 2013 #8

I'm sorry to hear that as someone with a grumpy fortunately unarmed 93-year-old grandfather. ellisonz Mar 2013 #10

My hair stylist, who just turned sixty, announced to me today when I went Cleita Mar 2013 #11

It's what I'm coining "Hestonesque syndrome", how about that? NRA sucks. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #56

welcome to my world. Bennyboy Mar 2013 #12

I'm just glad dad is at a city residence now. IF nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #55

My 96-year-old father (dementia) literally ran a care-giver out of the house wagging an air rifle indepat Mar 2013 #13

At the risk of seeming just a tad SheilaT Mar 2013 #14

Took them all away from my dad, very early onset. Only in his 60's. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #30

It's not all that simple Mopar151 Mar 2013 #32

Well then, isn't it obvious that SheilaT Mar 2013 #48

Actually, syntax error on my part now corrected in OP. See response # 52. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #58

This is not helpful nor are you fully cognizant of the situation here. You are snap judging. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #60

Snap judgment? SheilaT Mar 2013 #73

Word. mahina Mar 2013 #78

I hope you are better to the people around you in real life. mahina Mar 2013 #77

Oh, correction as follows. There was a previous non-gun "incident", and brother removed nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #52

Actually, syntax error on my part to be corrected. See response # 52. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #57

Yes, first official diagnosis and recognition of a defined problem here Sheila. See response #52. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #59

The problem of firearms in the house with Alzheimer's/dementia sufferers enough Mar 2013 #15

How true! rdharma Mar 2013 #18

Yes, with Alz/dementia there is no way to exaggerate! Nothing can be enough Mar 2013 #22

"until it gets so bad that there's no mind left" rdharma Mar 2013 #23

that's where my mom is, still going with no mind wordpix Mar 2013 #37

It's so sad. rdharma Mar 2013 #40

I beleive it. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #33

I think this is the big problem. One can leave all kinds of directives enough Mar 2013 #42

Especially with human perception problems like normalcy bias. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #45

Onset was recognized but gradual, and only by family. Alheimer's Dx since tuesday now, officially. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #62

I've been prepared for this eventuality for some time, actually. Thank you for link. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #54

He and your whole family are lucky to have you to step in with enough Mar 2013 #76

Sorry to hear that you are giving up your job to do this - but it's the right thing to do. freshwest Mar 2013 #16

That's what I thought. Till I did it. xfundy Mar 2013 #17

Since you don't come back, I won't respond to you. My comment was to the OP. freshwest Mar 2013 #19

xfundy, true post! rdharma Mar 2013 #20

If your father has Alzheimer's a travel trailer won't help you. peace13 Mar 2013 #21

Every case is different. Some do, some don't. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #34

Just answered email to brother with suggestion of GPS. matter under consideration. But: nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #61

Sorry. Had to take guns away from my FIL some time ago. Hoyt Mar 2013 #24

This is the stuff nightmares are made of, truly Iwillnevergiveup Mar 2013 #25

Lewis Black says... ReRe Mar 2013 #26

I am 1290 miles away. Brothers have responded, more relatives enroute for temporary care. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #66

OK... ReRe Mar 2013 #69

I am sorry, nightscanner, and I feel your pain. sheshe2 Mar 2013 #27

Hang tough. You are a solid dude for doing this. zonkers Mar 2013 #29

+1! patrice Mar 2013 #31

You have another option... Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2013 #38

Considered, rejected. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #63

Do him a favor and turn off FOX "News". Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2013 #72

First nap of the day, channel gets switched, and he fails to even notice, per brother. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #75

Gawd nightscanner59, I'm really sorry. loudsue Mar 2013 #39

Thanx, Sue, part of my unique ability to deal with dad neccessitates this. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #74

Yikes! rightsideout Mar 2013 #41

Dear rightsideout, your father sounds a lot like mine. For many years enough Mar 2013 #43

Different problem, but similar exchanges with my dad just over a year ago. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #64

I hope maybe some intervention organization can help. Anyone have suggestions for rightsideout? nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #65

I think if you have to move in with him to care for him, you should get to choose the news channel. snot Mar 2013 #44

First nap of the day, channel gets switched, and he fails to even notice, per brother. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #67

Before quitting your job & relocating, look into this: pacalo Mar 2013 #46

Thank you Pacalo nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #68

My mother had dementia related more to sensory deprivation Warpy Mar 2013 #47

Yes, caregiver will be compensated. Kudos to Jim Carrey's timing of his wonderful and timely song. nightscanner59 Mar 2013 #71

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Here we go again....so here's my generic response: Sancho Aug 2014 #80