Elder-caregivers

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23. Being the caregiver for our elderly parents is truly hard. It hurts so bittersweet.

Wed Jan 12, 2022, 01:29 AM

Jan 2022

It's a reversal of rolls and concepts we never could conceive when our parents were 10 foot tall and bullet proof, or during the trying era of our teen angst. When they guided us and kept us safe and looked out for our better interest.

Then, finally, we settle into an adult on adult relationship with them. And, just as fast as we grew up on them, they grow old on us. It feels like it took a blink of an eye from when mom was the stalwart matriarch, to my being the one making sure she's tended to.

My heart and my love to you sheshe. You are in my thoughts this night. ❤️

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You never know when it will be the last time you say you love them. [View all] sheshe2 Jan 2022 OP

I'm here anytime! MLAA Jan 2022 #1

Thank you, MLAA. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #2

This message was self-deleted by its author wyn borkins Jan 2022 #3

All the very best to your mom, you, and your family. Please take care and be well. God bless. Nt MerryHolidays Jan 2022 #4

Hang in there, she... TygrBright Jan 2022 #5

"watching as her light slowly goes out is painful." sheshe2 Jan 2022 #9

Going through this with my dad right now... Blue_playwright Jan 2022 #15

And I have my mom too. AmBlue Jan 2022 #22

You're right, you never know. babylonsister Jan 2022 #6

You are taking the best care of your mother. brer cat Jan 2022 #7

Sending peaceful resting vibes. onecaliberal Jan 2022 #8

Video camera is what i didn't have. Tetrachloride Jan 2022 #10

You are what every mother hopes their daughter grow up to be, Bluethroughu Jan 2022 #11

You're correct and I have experienced it several times. LastDemocratInSC Jan 2022 #12

We will be here. nt DURHAM D Jan 2022 #13

I've done the work you are doing now. MontanaMama Jan 2022 #14

we are all here for you tiredtoo Jan 2022 #16

❤ littlemissmartypants Jan 2022 #17

Sending you love and wishes for a peaceful night. LiberalLoner Jan 2022 #18

Our hearts are with you during this time, sheshe. summer_in_TX Jan 2022 #19

So glad to hear that she's doing better now, my friend. Rhiannon12866 Jan 2022 #20

Love and peace and golden dreams to both of you. fierywoman Jan 2022 #21

Being the caregiver for our elderly parents is truly hard. It hurts so bittersweet. herding cats Jan 2022 #23

**** Hekate Jan 2022 #24

"LOVE CAN WITHSTAND ANYTHING" ! monkeyman1 Jan 2022 #25

Your mom is so lucky to have you. SunSeeker Jan 2022 #26

You are so right. Hugs to you. we can do it Jan 2022 #27

Tough Duty no doubt but you are up to it. Botany Jan 2022 #28