The week from hell [View all]

What a week it has been. My spouse and I are retired. We have had my spouse's mother in our lives and our kids lives for 30 years. We lived near her, she has lived with us during COVID, and after we retired begged her to move out west with us. She was stubborn and independent and stayed. We got her into assisted living and called and visited every 3 months. My spouse took care of all of her appointments and helped her with everything she needed for the entire 30 years we had her in out lives. She lived alone and we figured we were all she had. There are however, two other siblings. To call them useless and entitled is an understatement.

Over the past few months, our mother's health has rapidly deteriorated and was in need of a much higher level of care than the assisted living could provide. We spent 10K moving her out near us and covered the cost of the higher-level care from our retirement income. Both siblings initially said that they refused to contribute a dime towards the care needed. One sibling eventually contributed a small portion of money to help us cover the monthly cost. The other one said absolutely not. She is the one that came for a visit this past week. She is a card-carrying narcissist and as delusional as they come. She has raised hell the entire week until we simply stopped allowing her to communicate with us.

My spouse has power of attorney for health care. The other sibling has power of attorney for finances. The one visiting has no power of anything, is hated by her mother, and deludes herself into believing that only she knows what their mother would want. The mother has spent the 30 years telling us that she didn't want any kind of extraordinary medical procedures of any kind and signed a DNR 12 years ago. We know everything about her final wishes and to the burial details. The case worker was amazed that we had every single document signed and ready to go at the first care conference. The hated daughter had no idea any of these documents even existed. Why would she? She hasn't seen her mother in years because we always had to pay her way.

I know this long and probably a pretty typical storyline but the hell we just went through with this holy terror is unimaginable. There is no inheritance, no property, nothing of value. The insanity is strictly due to one sick individual and her delusions.