Elder-caregivers

politicat

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9. Heh. I have the complete, durable POA, I'm the trustee, executor, and the admin.

Thu Jun 26, 2014, 10:16 PM

Jun 2014

The durable has the medical built in. When she told me she made the decision (several years ago, before any of this started) to put me in charge, she said that she intentionally made it as broad, deep and durable as her attorney would allow, because she knew herself well enough to know that when diminished capacity hit, she would fight it. And I got picked (in part) because she trusted me not to take her crap when she needed help.

At least she could forecast then what she's like now. I think that's the hardest part -- not seeing that sharp, tough side anymore.

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I could use some feedback on a delicate situation. [View all] politicat Jun 2014 OP

What a situation for both of you. Does someone have POA or such legal rights about her? uppityperson Jun 2014 #1

I have her POA, I'm the Trustee, the designated responsible party. politicat Jun 2014 #4

There are different kinds of POA's. There's a medical power of attorney pnwmom Jun 2014 #7

Heh. I have the complete, durable POA, I'm the trustee, executor, and the admin. politicat Jun 2014 #9

She's very lucky to have you. pnwmom Jun 2014 #10

It is hard, but at some point you have to simply take over. robinlynne Aug 2014 #14

she is your grandmother? Alameda Jun 2014 #2

I am it. Trustee, POA, responsible party. politicat Jun 2014 #5

Yikes, that is a worrisome situation, for sure. Habibi Jun 2014 #3

Tell her that Bruce is getting older and that he gets confused sometimes and might forget to call. mia Jun 2014 #6

I don't think blocking the phone number is a bad idea, given the circumstances. pnwmom Jun 2014 #8

Thanks. politicat Jun 2014 #11

Good. The fact that he's retreated now that you've taken over pnwmom Jun 2014 #12

I'm coming to this thread a bit late alcina Jul 2014 #13

I don't know what to say Aerows Oct 2014 #15