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madaboutharry

(41,436 posts)
Tue Jan 14, 2025, 04:41 PM 20 hrs ago

I don't know how to say this, but I'm going to try. [View all]

I don’t like the word “triggered.” I think it has been so overused that it has lost its impact and meaning.

However, after watching today’s hearing with Pete Hegseth and having a few hours to think about what happened there, I am deeply triggered right now. And I’m certain I am not alone.

I have known men like Pete Hegseth my entire adult life, entitled pretty boys who never learned where the boundaries were or how to respect other people.

I know I am not alone in having quit a job because of sexual harassment and a toxic (another overused word, sorry) environment caused by men with misogynistic and sexist attitudes toward women.

This entire scenario unfolding before us, with Trump and his depraved view of the world at the top, is sickening and frightening.

You want to know what is even more sickening than the unserious members of the “good old boys” club? Women like Joni Ernst. What a spectacular fraud. She has never stood up for victims of sexual assault. She didn’t even show up for Dr. Blasey-Ford’s hearing. She refused to meet with the woman who accused Hegseth of rape. She failed to ask meaningful questions today.

I can not bear to think about what the next four years are going to bring, for women in the military and for women who are federal employees, especially those working in Washington D.C.

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Any woman of a certain age remembers biophile 20 hrs ago #1
Please Bio, DENVERPOPS 18 hrs ago #41
Ditto....at your sides and out in front clearing the way calikid 18 hrs ago #44
With gratitude- will accept all the help you give! biophile 18 hrs ago #50
Thank you for your support! biophile 18 hrs ago #48
"was 'just the way things are'... so it just didn't register" Beartracks 17 hrs ago #54
I got enlightened DENVERPOPS 14 hrs ago #66
I believe that enough dtates have actually passed it to put it into the Constitution, soldierant 13 hrs ago #71
I'm that "certain age" WinstonSmith4740 25 min ago #88
I definitely get a visceral feeling watching this guy so many others in Trump's orbit as well Walleye 20 hrs ago #2
And yet many of them will insist that they just "love" women. 🙄 ShazzieB 19 hrs ago #30
Yeah - like a wolf loves little children biophile 18 hrs ago #51
I had to stop watching Hegseth and his smirk when being questioned by female senators Walleye 5 hrs ago #81
He reminds me of Matt Gaetz. And that's about the biggest insult I could throw at him. patphil 20 hrs ago #3
Brylcream spokesmen by day... rubbersole 20 hrs ago #6
Exactly! And he has the same smirk. Mike Johnson has it , too. KitFox 17 hrs ago #55
Slimy, creepy, dangerous men. Irish_Dem 20 hrs ago #4
I visited a girlfriend earlier this afternoon, slightlv 18 hrs ago #42
I think women in various parts of the world are having similar discussions. Irish_Dem 18 hrs ago #46
"I feel like I don't see it changing... ever." CrispyQ 15 hrs ago #64
Ernst could be described the same way.. BattleRow 18 hrs ago #45
That is really the core of their movement. Bleacher Creature 17 hrs ago #52
Exactly, this is the cohort group they are interested in. Irish_Dem 17 hrs ago #57
Agreed on all points. yardwork 20 hrs ago #5
Never forget BigMin28 18 hrs ago #38
Wow, I did not know that. arthritisR_US 13 hrs ago #69
Ernst is an abuser mercuryblues 20 hrs ago #7
Did she specify if her rapist was male or female? BattleRow 15 hrs ago #62
A college boyfriend. mercuryblues 15 hrs ago #65
Republican Rep. Nancy Mace is another like Ernst. Mister Ed 8 hrs ago #75
Totally with you. ancianita 20 hrs ago #8
..and coping with that emotional reality is going to have a high cost and many or most of us may not have the skills... WizumbODaSage 20 hrs ago #10
While I agree that we are no longer in a functioning democracy Brenda 19 hrs ago #32
I'm a male who has worked around a lot of these types and it revolts me. erronis 20 hrs ago #9
Those types have always enigmania 19 hrs ago #22
I hear you Lulu KC 19 hrs ago #11
I agree, Lulu.. TY for saying that. Cha 19 hrs ago #16
Mahalo for talking about your Cha 19 hrs ago #12
Well said, Cha. nt spooky3 19 hrs ago #23
Mahalo & Aloha, Spooky.. Cha 19 hrs ago #24
Aloha to you! spooky3 19 hrs ago #26
Yes lots of Putin Puppets in Cha 18 hrs ago #34
"Putin puppets in charge" TommyT139 18 hrs ago #36
I am hoping that a large group of his supporters will soon see that he will do spooky3 18 hrs ago #37
Yes the inflation thing & Cha 18 hrs ago #40
Joni Ernst is a coward AverageOldGuy 19 hrs ago #13
While I agree with you MLWR 19 hrs ago #17
It doesn't matter to MAGA if he has functioning brain or not. travelingthrulife 3 hrs ago #84
I'm an old soldier AverageOldGuy 19 hrs ago #14
Welcome Home Brother n/t rasputin1952 19 hrs ago #27
I was really hoping Duckworth would ask if he thought she wasn't lethal Arazi 19 hrs ago #31
The behavior is neither manly nor leadership. legallyblondeNYC 19 hrs ago #15
I didn't watch today, but a 'takeaway,' elleng 19 hrs ago #18
Hegseth is pure fucking evil. Initech 19 hrs ago #19
Well said. Ernst is a good old boy and they are all marching to Maga and the Chosen Orange manchild. Fascism is here Evolve Dammit 19 hrs ago #20
Trump's iron fisted control of our future with no one to stop him terrifies me. Peregrine Took 19 hrs ago #21
Some of you know me, some of you don't... rasputin1952 19 hrs ago #25
Thanks rasputin1952 Brenda 19 hrs ago #29
Thank you, rasputin1952, for laying down the law with your platoon. That was REAL leadership Attilatheblond 18 hrs ago #33
He's probably been well-coached. calimary 18 hrs ago #39
Fealty to him is a major tennet of drumphf's pov. electric_blue68 13 hrs ago #68
Happy Birthday Rasputin Capricorn Beringia 18 hrs ago #43
You are correct. yellow dahlia 17 hrs ago #53
Thank you for your service, Rasputin1952 LNM 17 hrs ago #59
Thank you for the Respect you gave to your fellow Women Soldiers... electric_blue68 13 hrs ago #67
I did my first tour as Infantry... rasputin1952 3 hrs ago #85
"He reminds me of Matt Gaetz." J_William_Ryan 19 hrs ago #28
People use the word, kozar 18 hrs ago #35
I used to work with guys like him when I was younger working on a stock trading desk kimbutgar 18 hrs ago #47
I see creepy - yellow dahlia 18 hrs ago #49
I am sure Pete Hegseth thinks he is pretty. madaboutharry 17 hrs ago #56
Meggyn Kelly two rows behind him. Defends him on her radio show. IA8IT 7 hrs ago #77
The worst... Mike Nelson 17 hrs ago #58
I can't rec your OP enough MontanaMama 16 hrs ago #60
When I'm triggered, I don't blame anybody. I reflect on my own issues and refrain from reading or listening Martin68 15 hrs ago #61
I really worry about the younger generations. They grew up with an expectation of equanimity in the future. 58Sunliner 15 hrs ago #63
Recommended. H2O Man 13 hrs ago #70
Ernst isn't alone. iemanja 12 hrs ago #72
This is no surprise. Most of the cons The Third Doctor 12 hrs ago #73
Reminds me of Susan Fucking Collins BigDemVoter 12 hrs ago #74
I'm triggered too Laurelin 7 hrs ago #76
k and r BoRaGard 7 hrs ago #78
Joni Earnest True Blue American 6 hrs ago #79
I get you. Been there, experience that, suffered the trauma. mucholderthandirt 5 hrs ago #80
There will be a certain pleasure in watching it all implode. Hegseth, who looks like he'll be confirmed, Vinca 5 hrs ago #82
At their core, sexual abuse, racism, and wealth inequality are about injustice. Republicans are cool with injustice LaMouffette 3 hrs ago #83
You hit the nail on the head. After seeing clips of Hepseth akbacchus_BC 3 hrs ago #86
I gave it up after Grassleys True Blue American 3 hrs ago #87
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