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In reply to the discussion: He shot her in the face [View all]

Cirsium

(3,692 posts)
53. Thanks
Mon Jan 12, 2026, 12:28 PM
Jan 12

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And that speed is its own kind of confession. A woman is dead, and the machinery is already humming, gears grinding, scripts sliding into place, moving with the well-rehearsed urgency of a system that knows exactly how to shield a man with power while quietly laying the weight of it all back onto the woman he killed. It’s a reflex so old and so deeply trained into our politics you can almost hear it click into gear — close ranks, lock arms, protect the man, and if there’s any blame left over, make sure it lands on her.

We’ve seen it in Donald Trump, in the way he talks about women as if they’re props in his personal pageant, things to be graded, mocked, and publicly humiliated. Piggy. Dog. Stupid. Ugly. He bragged about grabbing women by the pussy and was rewarded with the highest office in the land. That kind of language doesn’t just vanish into the air. It settles into the soil. It seeps into the seams of culture. It teaches people, quietly and relentlessly, what they’re allowed to get away with.

When leaders model contempt for women, when they make cruelty look like confidence and dominance look like strength, it doesn’t stay confined to podiums and cable news. It leaks outward, into parking lots and traffic stops and ordinary moments where someone with a weapon decides a woman has crossed an invisible line simply by not shrinking.

Renee Good tried to live. She tried to speak. She tried to calm a situation that never should’ve existed in the first place. She offered the only things she had left in that moment — her voice, her steadiness, her refusal to let fear be the last word. And for that, she was killed, then blamed, then pressed into a story that made her death easier for powerful people to swallow, as if a woman’s life could be wrapped in official language and made to disappear.

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He shot her in the face [View all] mountain grammy Jan 11 OP
Has anyone else had their anxiety triple with the murder of Renee Good? vapor2 Jan 11 #1
How about a hug? Trailrider1951 Jan 11 #3
Yes. mountain grammy Jan 11 #8
My anxiety soared when the Orange Hellbeast attacked a sovereign nation and abducted their head of state. ShazzieB Jan 11 #27
I needed this Joinfortmill Jan 11 #31
I'm exactly there, SB. Anyone can join, just BYOBlanket. littlemissmartypants Jan 12 #45
That video. mountain grammy Jan 12 #50
I have heard it for many different reasons, was raised with it. MuseRider Jan 11 #2
Yep mountain grammy Jan 11 #10
That man is a domestic abuser sboatcar Jan 11 #4
Sure not the actions of an innocent man. mountain grammy Jan 11 #5
Me, right before I hit the wall with abdominal staples dehisced Maru Kitteh Jan 11 #6
You're still here mountain grammy Jan 11 #7
You too MG. You too. Maru Kitteh Jan 11 #9
How awful, Maru Kitteh. My heart breaks for you. MIButterfly Jan 11 #19
Thank you for your kind MuseRider Jan 11 #39
"We know what we see when we see it." Silver Gaia Jan 12 #43
The real question is xmas74 Jan 11 #11
Well.. stillspkg Jan 11 #15
This is why my ex-husband is my ex..... Bayard Jan 11 #33
I'm so sorry mountain grammy. Scrivener7 Jan 11 #12
Thank you mountain grammy Jan 11 #16
That doesn't go away. No matter how long ago. Scrivener7 Jan 11 #17
It's a common phrase spoken by weak men... LuckyCharms Jan 11 #13
It is a common phrase popsdenver Jan 12 #54
I hope i say this right Srkdqltr Jan 11 #14
You just did MuseRider Jan 11 #40
Say it with me: BurnDoubt Jan 11 #18
Me, moved on, survived, and surpassed. I saw it again in tRump when he first ran for office, txwhitedove Jan 11 #20
Hugs to all of us who have had to listen to this verbal hateful abuse. Clouds Passing Jan 11 #21
the only time I heard YOU FUCKING BITCH Skittles Jan 11 #22
👍 mountain grammy Jan 11 #28
Yes, a very long time ago. Joinfortmill Jan 11 #23
Dead!? We'll be lucky if they don't apotheosize him! nt Wednesdays Jan 11 #32
Post today from JoJoFromJerz erronis Jan 11 #24
That's a good read. Highly recommend it underpants Jan 11 #29
Great piece mountain grammy Jan 11 #37
Yes. Thank you for sharing this with us. Silver Gaia Jan 12 #44
Thanks Cirsium Jan 12 #53
I've re-read her (JoJo's) piece several times and these paragraphs exemplify her writing. erronis Jan 12 #56
I am very lucky. I have been called that a number of times, as well as niyad Jan 11 #25
Every time I've been called that... Pacifist Patriot Jan 11 #26
This may be the reason why this incident resonates with so many Wednesdays Jan 11 #30
If that asshole murderer doesn't beat his wife, there ain't a cow in Texas. raccoon Jan 11 #34
This is the first time I've heard this aspect of the murder Bayard Jan 11 #35
I was putting gas in my car and a truck Zackzzzz Jan 11 #36
Thank you for this mountain Grammy. democrank Jan 11 #38
My neighbor calls me that though not to my face. He just tells everyone Raine Jan 11 #41
So very sad for all those who have been on the receiving end of violent, ugly words. summer_in_TX Jan 12 #42
My first marriage was a short one, not even a year. ... littlemissmartypants Jan 12 #46
She did not hear those words. He needlessly & illegally shot her point blank inches away. But it's telling that he.. themaguffin Jan 12 #47
Here's My Theory DallasNE Jan 12 #48
I made a lot more money - the marriage lasted 2 years TBF Jan 12 #49
The instant I learned what that murderer said Grammy23 Jan 12 #51
I've called all my reps to demand mountain grammy Jan 12 #55
"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them." - Margaret Atwood Ocelot II Jan 12 #52
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