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NNadir

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15. I agree with you about invisibility not being all bad. There was a time in my life when I WAS invisible more or...

Fri Oct 25, 2024, 04:19 PM

Oct 25

...or less, and I recall it with some mixture of joy and grief.

One thing that happened was that I changed my musical tastes, became a very good guitarist - which I no longer am, having stopped playing in part because I'm not invisible anymore and couldn't be if I wanted to - learned a lot about writing, and basically began to understand myself and made my first steps toward choosing a profession I would come to love.

On the other side, I was lonely, a little depressed at times, but at the end of the day, it made me stronger, the invisibility.

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Vanity Question: Did you ever consider yourself good looking, or conversely, ugly? [View all] NNadir Oct 24 OP

Objectively speaking I'm probably just garden-variety homely, Ocelot II Oct 24 #1

What Ocelot said. quaint Oct 24 #10

I've never had True Dough Oct 25 #16

Beauty is a Lie JoseBalow Oct 24 #2

Similar to: Twinkle, Twinkle, little star keithbvadu2 Oct 24 #3

I like that wit. A joke from Abraham Lincoln... NNadir Oct 24 #4

At one point in the Lincoln -- Douglas debates, Douglas accused Lincoln of being two faced. rsdsharp Oct 25 #34

Yes, I know that story, a classic. Thanks for the reminder. n/t. NNadir Oct 25 #36

I think I am very attractive- but I haven't really looked closely at myself in a mirror for years Redleg Oct 24 #5

Very good. Are you also happy with yourself as a person? Do you feel satisfied with your life? Feel free... NNadir Oct 24 #6

Sure- my looks don't seem to have much impact on my psychological well-being Redleg Oct 29 #53

That's good to hear. As physically unattractive as I am now... NNadir Oct 29 #55

That is good to hear- although I hope you don't leave anytime soon Redleg Oct 30 #58

Beware of the mirror. Sometimes it tells the truth. Sometimes we do not listen. keithbvadu2 Oct 24 #7

LOL Redleg Oct 29 #54

Don't give a sh.. medium ugly. duncang Oct 24 #8

I confess to getting physically uglier as I age, although ozempic has taken a bit of the edge off, but that said... NNadir Oct 24 #9

I wouldn't snag lightning. Solly Mack Oct 24 #11

I have kind of a different take on attractiveness. LuckyCharms Oct 24 #12

A good and thoughtful answer. n/t. NNadir Oct 24 #13

I bet True Dough Oct 25 #17

C'mon True Dough. LuckyCharms Oct 25 #19

We're still communicating. True Dough Oct 25 #20

You left your boxer briefs on my bedroom floor, and my wife found them. LuckyCharms Oct 25 #23

Yeah, but you didn't tell her True Dough Oct 25 #24

Damnit! I thought because you didn't answer me quickly... LuckyCharms Oct 25 #26

You're always a winner True Dough Oct 25 #27

Well thank you. People do tell me I'm a "real winner". LuckyCharms Oct 25 #28

I am middle aged to old, Kali Oct 25 #14

I agree with you about invisibility not being all bad. There was a time in my life when I WAS invisible more or... NNadir Oct 25 #15

mostly I enjoy it Kali Oct 25 #25

There was a time in my life, when despairing of ever being in love again, I resolved to spend my time doing what I... NNadir Oct 25 #38

This is absolute wisdom! GenThePerservering Oct 30 #61

At best, I'm an average-looking bloke True Dough Oct 25 #18

You're a beautiful man, True Dough, and I bet your LuckyCharms Oct 25 #21

I'm more of a True Dough Oct 25 #22

Aw jeez dweller Oct 25 #31

I like True Dough Oct 25 #32

Not really dweller Oct 25 #33

I always considered myself average looking. I lost my wife four years ago and after grieving for a couple of years... brush Oct 25 #29

After my mother died, my father, who had lost most of his teeth and most of his hair, started dating at my suggestion. NNadir Oct 25 #35

I appear as a wise Senior lady who smiles easily. Tikki Oct 25 #30

And that, of course, is beautiful. n/t. NNadir Oct 25 #37

I like saying "Face courtesy of General Motors..." Archae Oct 25 #39

You're better looking that I am, not that I'm going to try running into a Buick to improve my looks. I did... NNadir Oct 25 #40

You look fine to me. Boomerproud Oct 26 #50

Interesting. I was raised Catholic-guilt/modesty, yes doting feminine relatives goofing yet UTUSN Oct 25 #41

It was a problem similar to that my wife had when young. I remember once when she visited me when we were still... NNadir Oct 26 #42

One thing I've found is it is impossible to be jealous of physical beauty when the person is kind. quaint Oct 26 #43

Neither. I always considered myself average sakabatou Oct 26 #44

I have never.... Dem4life1234 Oct 26 #45

That would be my point, with which you apparently agree. Who one is is more more important than how one looks. NNadir Oct 26 #46

I'm not photogenic Niagara Oct 26 #47

Nice personal shot. NNadir Oct 26 #48

Hahaha :) Niagara Oct 26 #49

OMG... LuckyCharms Oct 26 #51

I am working Goatguy Oct 26 #52

I feel I am pretty plain and unappealing. My husband disagrees. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Oct 29 #56

We haven't met, but I'm guessing in this case your husband is absolutely right. NNadir Oct 29 #57

When I was growing up, I thought I was ugly. Aristus Oct 30 #59

I was always called "interesting looking" GenThePerservering Oct 30 #60

Looking interesting goes well with being interesting. I can't say that I know men who "neg" and "rag" to women... NNadir Oct 31 #63

I was a cute kid, but... LudwigPastorius Oct 31 #62