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NNadir

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35. After my mother died, my father, who had lost most of his teeth and most of his hair, started dating at my suggestion.
Fri Oct 25, 2024, 10:01 PM
Oct 2024

I had no idea how popular he was to become; lots of women pursued him.

Of course, he did what he didn't do, except on special occasions when my mother was alive, which was to wear his dentures, which were fairly uncomfortable.

He was a handsome young man, but when he aged, well, not so much.

He met ultimately, and married, a marvelous woman, who, although I was in my twenties when I served as his best man, I regarded as my stepmother. I called her "Mom," not out disrespect to my real mother, who I also loved, but because she loved my father so much, and by extension, me, as if I were one of her own 5 sons. (She's still alive, in her 90's, and when I can, I go to see her. My father's been dead for over 30 years.) After he married my stepmother, of course, the dentures were mostly in a drawer, except on special occasions.

Good for you to be dating. May you love again.

(I told my wife that when I kick off, she should try to pick up men at my funeral; she doesn't like it, but it's what I think.)

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Objectively speaking I'm probably just garden-variety homely, Ocelot II Oct 2024 #1
What Ocelot said. quaint Oct 2024 #10
I've never had True Dough Oct 2024 #16
Beauty is a Lie JoseBalow Oct 2024 #2
Similar to: Twinkle, Twinkle, little star keithbvadu2 Oct 2024 #3
I like that wit. A joke from Abraham Lincoln... NNadir Oct 2024 #4
At one point in the Lincoln -- Douglas debates, Douglas accused Lincoln of being two faced. rsdsharp Oct 2024 #34
Yes, I know that story, a classic. Thanks for the reminder. n/t. NNadir Oct 2024 #36
I think I am very attractive- but I haven't really looked closely at myself in a mirror for years Redleg Oct 2024 #5
Very good. Are you also happy with yourself as a person? Do you feel satisfied with your life? Feel free... NNadir Oct 2024 #6
Sure- my looks don't seem to have much impact on my psychological well-being Redleg Oct 2024 #53
That's good to hear. As physically unattractive as I am now... NNadir Oct 2024 #55
That is good to hear- although I hope you don't leave anytime soon Redleg Oct 2024 #58
Beware of the mirror. Sometimes it tells the truth. Sometimes we do not listen. keithbvadu2 Oct 2024 #7
LOL Redleg Oct 2024 #54
Don't give a sh.. medium ugly. duncang Oct 2024 #8
I confess to getting physically uglier as I age, although ozempic has taken a bit of the edge off, but that said... NNadir Oct 2024 #9
I wouldn't snag lightning. Solly Mack Oct 2024 #11
I have kind of a different take on attractiveness. LuckyCharms Oct 2024 #12
A good and thoughtful answer. n/t. NNadir Oct 2024 #13
I bet True Dough Oct 2024 #17
C'mon True Dough. LuckyCharms Oct 2024 #19
We're still communicating. True Dough Oct 2024 #20
You left your boxer briefs on my bedroom floor, and my wife found them. LuckyCharms Oct 2024 #23
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You're always a winner True Dough Oct 2024 #27
Well thank you. People do tell me I'm a "real winner". LuckyCharms Oct 2024 #28
I am middle aged to old, Kali Oct 2024 #14
I agree with you about invisibility not being all bad. There was a time in my life when I WAS invisible more or... NNadir Oct 2024 #15
mostly I enjoy it Kali Oct 2024 #25
There was a time in my life, when despairing of ever being in love again, I resolved to spend my time doing what I... NNadir Oct 2024 #38
This is absolute wisdom! GenThePerservering Oct 2024 #61
At best, I'm an average-looking bloke True Dough Oct 2024 #18
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I'm more of a True Dough Oct 2024 #22
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I like True Dough Oct 2024 #32
Not really dweller Oct 2024 #33
I always considered myself average looking. I lost my wife four years ago and after grieving for a couple of years... brush Oct 2024 #29
After my mother died, my father, who had lost most of his teeth and most of his hair, started dating at my suggestion. NNadir Oct 2024 #35
I appear as a wise Senior lady who smiles easily. Tikki Oct 2024 #30
And that, of course, is beautiful. n/t. NNadir Oct 2024 #37
I like saying "Face courtesy of General Motors..." Archae Oct 2024 #39
You're better looking that I am, not that I'm going to try running into a Buick to improve my looks. I did... NNadir Oct 2024 #40
You look fine to me. Boomerproud Oct 2024 #50
Interesting. I was raised Catholic-guilt/modesty, yes doting feminine relatives goofing yet UTUSN Oct 2024 #41
It was a problem similar to that my wife had when young. I remember once when she visited me when we were still... NNadir Oct 2024 #42
One thing I've found is it is impossible to be jealous of physical beauty when the person is kind. quaint Oct 2024 #43
Neither. I always considered myself average sakabatou Oct 2024 #44
I have never.... Dem4life1234 Oct 2024 #45
That would be my point, with which you apparently agree. Who one is is more more important than how one looks. NNadir Oct 2024 #46
I'm not photogenic Niagara Oct 2024 #47
Nice personal shot. NNadir Oct 2024 #48
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I feel I am pretty plain and unappealing. My husband disagrees. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Oct 2024 #56
We haven't met, but I'm guessing in this case your husband is absolutely right. NNadir Oct 2024 #57
When I was growing up, I thought I was ugly. Aristus Oct 2024 #59
I was always called "interesting looking" GenThePerservering Oct 2024 #60
Looking interesting goes well with being interesting. I can't say that I know men who "neg" and "rag" to women... NNadir Oct 2024 #63
I was a cute kid, but... LudwigPastorius Oct 2024 #62
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