Dad was adament about his 4 daughters going to college, but was kind of your dad's mirror image. He wanted us independent, and NOT needing a man to take care of us. He and mom were the "greatest generation" who both had the talent to go to college, but not the money, and there was that pesky war to deal with. He started talking to me about how important college was when I was 5...no exaggeration. And mom was right there with him. BUT...there was no way we could go "away" to school. We had to commute and live at home. It was the 60's, the sexual revolution was in full swing, and he was not about to have our education interrupted by a pregnancy. (I guess you could only have sex at night, in bed. ) Fortunately for me, there was a local liberal arts/teacher's college that had exactly what I needed, was highly recommended by my coaches and counselors (I was a jock, phys. ed. major) and as a state school, dirt cheap so I could pay for it with summer jobs.
My experience was a lot like yours...college those days was an eye-opening experience, when our professors demanded critical thought. There was no way you could go into a classroom discussion with fuzzy or emotional thinking. It was an experience that formed so many of us.
But actually, the reason I got started on this life story was that we may have grown up in the same area! I grew in Cherry Hill, NJ, and went to what was then Glassboro State College, now Rowan University...when you endow a college with $500 million, they'll change the name!