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WinstonSmith4740

(3,188 posts)
22. My story was similar, but different.
Sun Mar 20, 2022, 09:55 AM
Mar 2022

Dad was adament about his 4 daughters going to college, but was kind of your dad's mirror image. He wanted us independent, and NOT needing a man to take care of us. He and mom were the "greatest generation" who both had the talent to go to college, but not the money, and there was that pesky war to deal with. He started talking to me about how important college was when I was 5...no exaggeration. And mom was right there with him. BUT...there was no way we could go "away" to school. We had to commute and live at home. It was the 60's, the sexual revolution was in full swing, and he was not about to have our education interrupted by a pregnancy. (I guess you could only have sex at night, in bed. ) Fortunately for me, there was a local liberal arts/teacher's college that had exactly what I needed, was highly recommended by my coaches and counselors (I was a jock, phys. ed. major) and as a state school, dirt cheap so I could pay for it with summer jobs.

My experience was a lot like yours...college those days was an eye-opening experience, when our professors demanded critical thought. There was no way you could go into a classroom discussion with fuzzy or emotional thinking. It was an experience that formed so many of us.

But actually, the reason I got started on this life story was that we may have grown up in the same area! I grew in Cherry Hill, NJ, and went to what was then Glassboro State College, now Rowan University...when you endow a college with $500 million, they'll change the name!

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My daughter went to Mt. Holyoke, the oldest of the 7 sisters, and was "cured" of her shyness and CTyankee Mar 2022 #1
Eldest went there too. I wanted kids to go far enough away so they couldn't drive home easily. TheBlackAdder Mar 2022 #19
Great story! PittBlue Mar 2022 #2
You had a wonderful mother. TNNurse Mar 2022 #3
My mother mgardener Mar 2022 #4
Thank goodness for your friend's mom! ❤️ MLAA Mar 2022 #17
An amazing story. Your mom was a remarkable woman! yardwork Mar 2022 #5
Good for you & your brilliant Momma Chicagogrl1 Mar 2022 #6
"It was 1975". HA. Many parents are the same way today. oldsoftie Mar 2022 #7
You probably already know this but let me advertise for the local college. The Jungle 1 Mar 2022 #8
It a brave story you tell Farmer-Rick Mar 2022 #9
Great story. And did your Dad ever came to terms with your autonomy and independence? TheRickles Mar 2022 #10
No, he didn't. no_hypocrisy Mar 2022 #11
So maybe at least a little bit of a shift on his part. I guess you found your appreciation elsewhere TheRickles Mar 2022 #23
So . . . AverageOldGuy Mar 2022 #12
Yes and no. no_hypocrisy Mar 2022 #14
Thank you for sharing a story of triumph and success. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2022 #13
Cool! Pacifist Patriot Mar 2022 #15
Great story. mnhtnbb Mar 2022 #16
Nice story. Thanks. I'm happy to hear it turned out well. n/t. NNadir Mar 2022 #18
My niece goes to Sweetbriar. AllyCat Mar 2022 #20
What a smart mother! Whew, she made all the difference for you. MLAA Mar 2022 #21
My story was similar, but different. WinstonSmith4740 Mar 2022 #22
I love this story. JudyM Mar 2022 #24
nice to have that kind of support! Skittles Mar 2022 #25
Postscript no_hypocrisy Mar 2022 #26
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